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The Prayer Jar

Answer me when I call, O God of my righteousness!
    You have given me relief when I was in distress.
    Be gracious to me and hear my prayer!
                                                     ~Psalm 4:1

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My children are too old for Easter baskets this year but a prayer jar will last forever!

Every week a new prayer is written and placed in this jar.  As troubles arise in each of their lives and verses are discovered they are placed in this jar and prayed over constantly. 

The girls’ jars are complete and finishing my son’s in the morning.

At the end of the year, they will get their jars to read through and it will be their gift to cherish. 

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Have a Happy Easter and remember the best way to be the best mom possible is to pray for yourself, your spouse/significant other, and your children. 

God Bless!

Myra
A very blessed woman in TX

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How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 2

1 Corinthians 10.31

In the blog, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl I discussed 10 steps to gaining confidence.  I also folowed up with Step 1 in the blog How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 1.  In this blog I explain the most important step of picking up your crown and owning it- coming to know God through a personal relationship with our LORD and Savior, Jesus Christ.  Another very important step in being able to pick up your crown is to Give the Glory to God ALWAYS and to honor Him ALWAYS!

Let’s face it it’s easy to love God and praise Him when things are going right but when things are falling apart it’s hard to say “thank you, LORD”.  I know, I’ve been there and done that.  I tithed when things were great and didn’t when they were bad.  I prayed when things were good and didn’t when they were bad.  When everything in my life fell apart, I blamed Him instead of praising him through the storm.

giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, ~Ephesians 5:20

The Bible does NOT say give thanks to God when things are good.  It says FOR EVERYTHING (good or bad).  This is very hard to do.  When I was learning this lesson I was living in a hotel because I had lost my job, got evicted from my home, and I had 3 children to raise and feed.  ALL BY MYSELF!   This was during a period in time when finding a job was next to impossible.  The economy had taken a downward spiral and jobs were scarce.

So that weekly hotel you pass on the highway and think who stays there weekly?  Well, me and my children did.  The PTA mom, the soccer mom, the baseball mom, the Jr. Leaguer with her hair done just right and dressed just like you -she stayed there. This is why I never judge a book by its cover-I’ve been that book misjudged many times.  I know what is happening on the outside is not a true representation of what is happening on the inside.

I look back on what seemed to be a very dark moment in my life and I am reminded of how great God really is because as I look back on that moment I am reminded of a  what was born from me being there in that moment of time.  A sweet friend of mine came to visit me at my worst at that hotel and as I was crying about my circumstance and complaining about my life, she saw a need I could not see.  All I saw around me was MY situation.

Out of my darkest moment a very good ministry was founded for the children who lived there.  Kids playing soccer next to a highway.  Kids running around without solid parental guidance.  Teens having sex in the hallways and rooms of a hotel because of the lifestyle they were raised in. They finally had a voice through my sweet friend and her Life Group from church.

Funds were raised and kids who didn’t know what a Christmas tree was like or the joy of decorating for Christmas suddenly found that joy. Children and parents were mentored on a life with Jesus and still are because I weathered a storm.  Because although I reached my lowest moment in my life; there were families reaching one of the highest moments in their lives-coming to know the LORD.  Only God could make that happen.  But if I had not lived in that place for that season of my life, it never would have happened.  My life made that happen.  That, my friends, is very empowering to know my life impacted others in that way.

I could tell you countless stories of weathering the storm, we all have them.  Some of us have more than others.  But the biggest lesson I learned through all my trials was that God DOES have a plan for me.  He does have a hope and a future for me.  I just have to listen to my Heavenly Father and see the beauty being created even when my life is a hot mess for that hot minute.  That, my sweet friends,  was so empowering to me.

My life is very blessed now but I have a past.  I had shame from bad relationships and poor choices in men.  I had guilt from bad choices that led to sexual promiscuity and poor financial management.   I had loneliness from low self esteem.  Sound familiar?  Good news is that it will get better.  You see one day I found out I have Jesus and my whole life changed. My Jesus is my friend and he held my hand when I thought no one else in the world was there.He led me to Central Texas.  He brought me to my beautiful life in my beautiful home with my amazing husband, my three beautiful children and friends who are now family.

It wasn’t easy and it has taken a lot of healing and a lot of forgiveness of others and myself.  It took me realizing that no matter  what God has a plan and no matter what He deserves the glory for all my hurts, all my pains, and all my success.  Without the trials and tribulations I would not be who I am today.  I would not know a life with God.  I would not be a mother who prays for her children not to know the experiences I endured in my life.  I would not be a wife who submits to her husband and prays for him daily.  I would be a lost soul walking on this earth filled with pain, filled with misery, and void of the love and laughter that my family and friends today bring me.

It’s not easy to always give the glory to God.  Sometimes we forget.  We are human, it happens.  But I have prayed for God to convict me when I fail to praise him even during the bad times and He does.

My challenge to you today is simple:  Find your hope and your future even when you are in the storm.  See the beauty in your hot mess moments.  We all have them.  Turn the negative into a positive.  Know that no matter where you are in life at this moment that God, and ONLY God brought you to where you are today. GIVE HIM THE GLORY FOR IT ALL!  But most importantly, know that even when we are a hot mess in those hot minute moments we still deserve to pick up our crowns and a know that even when we feel no one else is there our Heavenly Father is because we are the daughters of the King of Kings and LORD of Lords.

And that my sweet friends, makes all of us blessed women!

God Bless,

Myra

A Blessed Woman in TX

 

 

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Bringing Youth Group Home

“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6

For the last few months I have been struggling to get my son to go to youth group.  As I have prayed over this fervently, God finally gave me the answer the other day in Lifeway.  “I’ll buy a study we can do at home together”.  So, since both the 14 year old and 19 year old can’t make it to youth group on Wednesdays, I’ll bring it to the house!  I’m a little nervous but also super pumped about this.  I haven’t done anything like this since they were little!!! But then I asked “why not?”

We have to remember that no matter how old our children are, we are still parents.  Yes, they can take care of themselves but without proper guidance and teaching and training, life can get hard real quick.  Everyday I talk to my 25 year old.  Sometimes they are long conversations sometimes they are a quick text message, and sometimes, I just don’t want to talk but everyday I hear from her.  When I don’t, I know something is not right and I reach out. My job as a parent never stops!!!

It can be tiring to be always “on”as a mom.  Even when they get older, they still only talk to you when you are on the phone or in the restroom or when you are trying to rest.  Even when they get older they still need you to cook them a meal, love on them and comfort them when they are sick. It can be exhausting shuffling kids from point A to point B.  But then they get the drivers license and you miss taking them and having those little conversations in the car. And you would give anything for that moment once again.

Here is what I know today:   I would give anything to go back and do it all over again to really bask and take in those moments with Megan and Marissa.  I am down to my last one at home and I am learning to put a new spin on this because one day there won’t be anyone to drop off in the morning. One day they will all have their own families, their own lives.  But the one thing I do know, they will never not know they are loved.  I will never not be there for them.   Just because they are grown does not mean they do not need me.  It means my job as a mom is different. I lean on my parents everyday, so why shouldn’t they lean on me.

So, today I prepared for youth group at the house and my son’s best friend and his mom will be joining us.  They have been our extended family for quite some time.  We will fellowship and worship together tonight at we study The Battle Plan for Prayer Teen Bible Study. 

To prepare for this I have put together my Mom Prayer Journal for Christi and myself.  This is where we will journal everything about being a mother and all our prayers for our children.

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wp-1456947669950.jpg In here I have a spot for all those awesome downloads, prayer calendars, bible studies, etc I find online.  Then I have a section with paper and dividers for our children and my step grandchildren. But I digress!  I will save this for another post another day……..

I have also put together some sheets for the kids tonight and found some on the internet.

The first thing I put together is the battle plan worksheet!  You can find it here–>Teen Battle Plan Session 1 I had to add some baseball images to it to make it interesting for the boys!  (In my internet search I could not find anything teen boy friendly so I created it).  This sheet is the main points I wanted to get across tonight.

One of the topics we will discuss tonight is confession of sins.   So after many hours of searching for something appropriate, I took an old favorite Catholic examination of conscience and made it into a Christian examination of conscience.  You can find it here –> Confession Sheet

I will also be using some others but again I’ll save that for some other posts.  There is so much I have done to prepare for tonight.  I just hope the boys have fun as they begin to learn what it has taken me 44 years to figure out-prayer is the answer to EVERYTHING!

I’m sure they will since we will also be making prayer jars!  WHAT? Of course my inner Martha Stewart had to create something!

At the end of the day, I will just be happy to teach these young men (and the young woman) about my new passion for prayer and all the good it brings to your life.

Tonight I will be blessed with 2 young men and a young woman and one of my dearest friends who all mean the world to me.  I look forward to what God has in store tonight……….

There is much more to come!  God has put so much on my heart lately and I can’t keep up (hence the reason for the many prayer journals I have purchased lately). Copious notes and conversations being recorded.  But until then…………

God Bless

A Very blessed woman in TX

Myra

 

 

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That’s the Book for Me!

Do you have a stack of books you need to read?

  • In my living room, I have 25 new books.
  • In my office, I have 3 new books.
  • In my purse, I carry 4 new books.

All purchased in the last 2 months.

You know the books I’m talking about, ladies.  The ones that discuss growing deeper with God, they help you be a better Christian wife, Christian mother, make Christian decisions and all the Christian topics you think will “fix” or “help” you?  If you’re like me, then yes!

Why?  Because I’m going to read them all!  Right?  Well no.  However, in my defense, I am currently reading 3 of the 25 books.

My husband just shakes his head and walks off every time we are at Lifeway and he says “Why are you getting this book?” and I reply “Um, for Bible Study” and he replies “How many bible studies do you do?  Shouldn’t you finish one before you start another”  Um, OUCH!

This recent conversation with Lee and a group of friends who are in the same boat  with me made me think.  If we are doing this, there are others doing this!  We are overwhelmed with where to start.  We are tired.  Which one do we read first.

If you are like me, then you get on Facebook and join your Christian groups in a quick early morning conversation.  Then you head over to your devotional you go to in the morning where you click a link and  you are lead to read through a blog, that blogs leads to another, and another.  The next thing you know hours have flown by and it’s 10 am or 12 pm.  AND now your email is overwhelmed with the 4-5 devotionals you signed up for in the process.  Then you feel guilty because you don’t have time to read them all.  Guilt hits you because afterall, THIS IS GOD’S WORD!  ln the process you also came across 1-2 more books you need to purchase because if you get them, everything will be okay!!!!  You feelin’ me, ladies?

WE NEED TO STOP DOING THAT!

Don’t get me wrong, I love these books.  They all are written by wonderful men and women with awesome insight to the LORD.   And the blogs, I love them.  I write one and have friends who write some beautiful words and I cherish them all but Oh -My -Goodness I have become overwhelmed on where to start because of my desire to be a better Christian wife, mom, daughter, and friend

Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God. ! ~2 Corinthians 3:5

Ladies, hear me closely:  God says we are good enough!  As long as we are following Him we are enough.  Do we need insight and fellowship from our Christian sisters, heck yes!   Are these books awesome resources,  heck yes!  But that’s just it, these are resources not our whole source.  Have faith that God will lead us to what we need.  He did not intend for us to freak out and be overwhelmed in our walk with Him.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. ~ 2 Corinthians 12:9 

I’ve sat here with 6 books piled up, over 20 blogs to read through, and feeling like I would never get through it all in a day.  That’s because I won’t!  I work fulltime outside of the home, I’m a mom, a friend, a daughter and most importantly a wife.  I have a household to run and two regions to manage with 500 agents.  As great as it would be to sit with a cup of coffee nestled in the corner of my couch wrapped in a beautiful blanket reading and posting blogs about my new wonderful findings, I can’t. God blessed me with a family, a career, and a Bible.

God told me my solution was simple, when all else fails, start with the Bible and a simple conversation with Him to lead me to what and who I need in my life. I did this recently and was blessed with this wonderful group of mentors who are guiding me in ways I never thought imaginable.  I have formed new friendships and been guided to Him like never before in my life.  Who knew the solution to being overwhelmed by a simple, enjoyable act like reading and self improvement was so simple.  ASK and PRAY!

I reassessed my involvement in all things in my life.  I deleted Facebook groups and business groups I didn’t visit anymore or are no longer aligned with my values in all areas of my life.  I gave myself permission to read what God leads me to and puts on my heart.   I have a crown on my head put on there by God Himself.  I am His princess.  He is my King and He told me I am “fearfully and wonderfully made”.  He told me what studies I need to attend and who I need to be around right now.  Most importantly, God told me I AM ENOUGH!  My crown is straight again.  I just needed to slow down, take a deep breath and LISTEN!

So, if you are like me and want to “fix” your life or need “help”.  Yes, God provided resources but the most important source he gave us is the Bible.  Do a google search on scriptures that cover your topic.  Ask God to help you find what YOU need.  If you find a book, ask God if this is the one.  Sometimes he’ll show you through cost, shipping, difficulties ordering.  LISTEN TO HIM!

When signing up for devotionals know you only need 1-2 devotionals per day.  I have one for the morning and one for the evening.  And I know it’s the right ones because they usually address something I’m facing in my life at that time.  God’s timing is everything!

I was signed up for so many online bible studies before I did nothing but study, study, study.  I had no time for application and it was not fruitful for me anymore.  I was still receiving these updates and such and although the information is useful and awesome material I unsubscribed.  Not because I don’t like them, but because there was a time these were right for me, but now God told me I needed something different.  He has provided it.

Find what resonates with you right now, this minute.  Ask God to lead you.  It can be overwhelming and cause you greater stress as you try to read through a pile of books and click through blogs to fix your life.

I read blogs for fun and leisure.  I love seeing what my friends are doing and what God places on their hearts as well.  But I don’t look at each one everyday.  Sometimes I’ll read 4-5 when traveling sometimes all I have time for is 1.  Sometimes they are pertinent to me and sometimes they are pertinent for a friend and I pass it on.  No matter what I am reading, I have learned God leads me to where I am for a purpose.  I may not know that purpose today, but eventually it will come to me and be useful.

I love books, I enjoy reading and learning more about my walk with the LORD.  I am in no way saying don’t read books or blogs.  I am just saying read what is intended for you and your circumstances.  Maybe you are firm in your decision making processes so books on this are fruitless to you however, if your prayer life needs some sparking then books on prayer would be fruitful for you.

In 2016, I agreed to simplify my life and increase my prayer life.  So being the Type A personality I am and overachiever I have purchased every book possible to make this happen.  But God and I talked.

Today, I am reading 3 books:  Lord, I Want to Know You for bible study at church, Fervent for my online study and The Battle Plan for Prayer for my personal knowledge.  I also purchased the Audible versions since I travel so much.  The more I hear it AND read it the more it resonates with me.  I will also turn these on when cleaning or cooking at home or working in the office.  I have loaned out some of the other books I purchased to friends.  If I get them back great, if not, then when I need something God will provide it.

I am blessed with the resources God provides.

God Bless,

Myra

A Very Blessed Woman in TX

 

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Prayer-Keys to the Kingdom Part 2

In my last blog, I shared one of my husband’s sermons.  This is the last and BEST part of it (to me at least).   This was where I had new insight to a very long history with Prayer.

If I had cherished iniquity in my heart,
    the Lord would not have listened.   ~ Psalm 66:18

  • We must remain in right-standing with God.  We must not have unconfessed sin in our lives.  We must confess our sins routinely, keeping short accounts, then going to the Father seeking forgiveness, grace and mercy.

“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” ~Matthew 6:14-15

  • Be pure in heart.  We cannot have have unforgiveness in our heart toward anyone.  No resentment or longheld bitterness.  If so, ask the LORD to create a clean heart in you to reveal anything you may have overlooked or have buried deep within you.
  • Pray with love and ferventcy out of a pure heart with all sincerity.

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.
 ~Hebrews 11:1

  • Speak of things as though they are not as they are.  In 2 Corinthians 4:18 we are told as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal And in Romans 4:17  we are told as it is written, “I have made you the father of many nations”—in the presence of the God in whom he believed, who gives life to the dead and calls into existence the things that do not exist.  God did, Jesus did, Abraham did, and WE MUST!

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge;
    because you have rejected knowledge,
    I reject you from being a priest to me.
And since you have forgotten the law of your God,
    I also will forget your children.  ~Hosea 4:6

  • Pray in knowledge of God’s word.  Look up and know the scriptures pertaining to certain requests.  Know God’s promises.  We must know how to stand on God’s word.
  • Never doubt.  God hears and will answer on HIS time.  And it may not be a yes.  If it goes unanswered it wasn’t HIS will.  At least not yet! Sometimes unanswered prayer is a blessing.
  • Pray in Jesus’ name and authority always

And the Lord restored the fortunes of Job, when he had prayed for his friends. And the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before. ~Job 42:10

  • Pray for others regularly.  God will bless you for it and readily answer more of your prayers.  Everything Job lost in his terrible ordeal was restored to him DOUBLE when he entered into prayer for his three friends who had accused him so vigorously of sin.

TO BETTER UNDERSTAND HOW TO PRAY FOR YOUR FRIENDS READ AND MAKE NOTES ON PAUL’S PRAYERS FOR HIS FRIENDS

Paul prayed that his friends:

  • Ephesians 1:18-19  Might have wisdom and power
  • Ephesians 3:16-19 Strength in the inner man
  • Philippians 1:9-11 For discernment
  • Colossians 1:9 That they would know God’s will
  • 1 Thessalonians 3:10-13 That they have a growing love for one another
  • 2 Thessalonians 1:11-12 That they be worth of their calling
  • 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17 That they be comforted and established
  • 2 Thessalonians 3:5 That they be steadfast in their love for God
  • 1 Timothy 2:12 They they live quiet and peaceful lives
  • Philemon 6 That they recognize all they have IN CHRIST!
  • Hewbrews 13:20-21 That God would work in them that which is pleasing to Him.

Begin to pray this way and you will become a real prayer warrior and the devil will flee from you.

And there it is.  This is my favorite sermon from my husband.  Knowing him and living with him makes these sermons even more personal because I know the blood, sweat and tears that went into writing these sermons.  I know the backstories to each one of these sermons and makes it mean that much more to me. I am very proud of the changes he has made in his life and the man he is today.  Putting on the new man has never in my life looked so good as it does on him.

I am blessed to live with my favorite pastor.  I am blessed that he shares his faith with me.  I am blessed he prays with me and for me everyday.  I am a blessed woman.

God bless,

Myra

A Blessed Woman in TX

 

 

 

 

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Prayer-Keys to the Kingdom Part 1

I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” ~ Matthew 16:19

My husband has spent quite a few years studying for his M.Div and now his Doctorate.  He has had many assignments.  However, my favorite assignment he had to do was one called “Capture the Sermon“.  In this assignment, he had to listen to and rewrite the sermons in his words as he would teach the lesson.  From that assignment he wrote one called “Prayer-Keys to the Kingdom“.    This one is special because it was a sermon by our favorite Pastor, Steve Griffith out of Dallas, TX.  Steve was not only Lee’s mentor but also the Pastor who married us in July.  I also owe Steve a lot because it was him who gave me my husband back.  Without Steve, Lee would not be in my life or our son’s life.

This is a very timely find because of my new passion for my relationship with God and my desire to improve my prayer life.  Since watching the movie War Room, I have reignited my passion for the LORD and my prayer life.  Imagine my surprise when I was going through this file and found this beauty at the bottom of the stack.  God’s perfect timing once again!

Here it is:

wp-1453485935397.pngPrayer, there is nothing simpler or more powerful.  In 1 Timothy 2:1, we see the first instruction Paul gave the church was to pray.  Prayer is a constant challenge for most Christians- finding time, following up, knowing what to pray for.  And here lies the problem-making it an activity on the to-do list instead of a lifestyle that leads to victory.

Ephesians 6:18 tells us to “Pray always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to the this end with perseverance and all suppliaction for all Saints” This means:

  • Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit
  • Don’t stop praying
  • Call on all believers to help you pray
  • Pray for one another

We are in a constant attitude of prayer; a constant state of communicating with the LORD; a continual dependence on Him, moment by moment in life.  1 Thessalonians 5:17 says “Pray without ceasing.” We should pray about everything and on all occasions.  Anytime, Anyplace. Whether we are in prayer circles, meetings, our closet, family table, bible classes, devotionals, intercessions we should be walking and talking with God.

Prayer is our spiritual fuel.  We are human but now we have a spiritual engine.  That engine needs not human fuel or fuel of the world but prayer, which supplies our spiritual needs.  Prayer provides the energy needed to wear our spiritual armor (aka The Armor of God).  We cannot fight spiritual battles in our own strength-running on human effort.  We MUST rely on PRAYER.  It is the key to wearing God’s Armor into Victory!

Satan will use every device to keep us from praying. He will cause physical fatigue and zap our energy.  He will make us mentally unfit for prayer through the cares and burdens of the home and business.  He will destroy our power and prayer life through doubt, discouragement and depression.  So, when we feel least like praying, this is the time we need most to pray, for Satan has already gained a foothold in us.  The enemy knows when we haven’t prayed and moves into attack.  Prayer CANNOT be a matter of emotion.  It must be a CHOICE OF WILL.  A constant act of devotion and communication with God.

We must pray in prosperity and adversity; sickness and in health.  When we pray, pray prayers of praise and thanksgiving.  Then pray for what we will, desire and need.  James 4:2 says “we do not have because we do not ask…”  Often we strive after something without even praying about it and asking God for it.  Asking is the rule of the kingdom. If Jesus had to ask, you and I cannot expect to be exempted from it.  God knows what we need but HE wants us to ask Him as a sign of faith and dependence on Him.

The Holy Spirit provides us with power.  “Praying in Spirit” is all about God’s will.  We learn to pray the will of and according to the Word of God by yielding to the power of the Spirit who lives in us.  The Spirit directs us to pray in alignment with God’s plan and purposes, so God is able to answer.  If we pray on our own strength and wisdom, we will not find agreement with God.  We must have the mind of God which the Spirit provides as we pray.

Praying needs to become natural to you!  We must have perseverance in prayer, not giving up.  Prayer should also be done out of spiritual willingness and should not be forced.

The enemy has many ways he will try to discourage you from praying.  Let’s say you have two good days of praying in a row.  Satan will try to convince you it will be like that the rest of your life.  Listen closely, it won’t!  The third day when your prayer life is fruitless, the enemy will try to convince you that you’ve blown it and there is no use trying anymore.  THIS IS A LIE!!!  Do not listen!

If you have a couple of good days of prayer, then thank God for them and try for a third.  If the third day is a failure, just pray again on the fourth day.  Forget what is past and start anew each day.  Persevere in prayer.  That is the only way to get it done.

An old saying about the devil and prayer is that “The one concern of the devil is to keep Christians from praying.  He fears nothing from prayer-less studies, prayer-less works or prayer-less religion.  He laughs at our toil, mocks at our wisdom but trembles when we pray.”

And that is the first half of his sermon that was completed on September 6, 2010. Tomorrow I will share keys to prayer effectiveness and some guidance on prayer from Paul.  This is my favorite part of this sermon.  However, if you are like me, and not holding a M.Div. as my husband does then you have quite a bit to ponder for now.  I have to read and reread to fully grasp his words and the content.  I encourage you to do the same.

I am blessed with such a God-fearing man full of wisdom on the subject of our walk with the LORD.  Sometimes I get overwhelmed to make sure I’m living up to the standards Lee has but what I, what we both have realized is each of us has our own walk with the LORD.  Lee’s calling is his own and my calling is my own.  Our expectations for our walks are tailored to each of us but there are certain expectations we share.  This is a lesson we both had to learn the hard way.  It took us both humbling ourselves and almost losing one another to learn it.  Place your spouse/significant other in God’s hands and He will give you what you need.  Together, as one, we now encourage and support one another in our walks through the powerful gift of PRAYER.

God Bless,

Myra

A Very Blessed Woman in TX

 

 

 

 

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War Room, Prayer and Blessings

I have not told enough people about this movie-War Room.  Hands down one of the best life-changing movies out there.  God really spoke to me while watching this.  So much so, I got out my bible, highlighted verses I saw  during the movie.  And Ms. Clara is my favorite in the movie.  I want a Ms. Clara in my life and I want to be a Ms. Clara in someone’s life.

I don’t know about those of you who saw the movie but I personally love the scene where she walks through the house and kicks Satan out of her home and life.  That was the life changing moment for me.  My husband does this every morning before we ever get out of bed “I pray the blood of Jesus over my home and my family.  Satan you have no place in our lives or the lives of our children, family members and loved ones.  You need to flee”.   I use to giggle when he did it but I realize now as I look back on my journal that it made a difference.  There were  days when we barely spoke to each other much less pray together and as noted in my journal those were the hardest.  Lee had not banned Satan from our home and our lives like he had done in the past.  Prayer works and God gave us the authority to remove Satan from our lives. This was one of my biggest faithbuilders……..

Lee and I are barely married six months and the struggle was real for us!  I was on the brink of divorce in our first 90 days of marriage because I was too focused on what my husband wasn’t doing, my lack of a prayer life and my ideology of what marriage should be that I overlooked all he was doing.  God shook me up and woke me up.  It took totaling a car and almost going over a bridge to scare me straight but sometimes God has to do that.

Shortly after seeing this movie War Room, I took a trip to Lifeway.  I didn’t know what I needed but I knew I needed something then I came across Fervent and The Battle Plan for Prayer.  I read them daily!  Whether deep in your walk with the LORD or trying to figure out this prayer thing, both books are much needed additions to your library.

I still do not have my “war room” setup but I do know my prayer life is HOT!  I have found my self saying “God, help me” “LORD, guide me” and just in constant communication with the LORD more often everyday.  I am in the beginning phases of getting my Momspace/War Room recreated in our new home.  I have created a few things to go in there like this cross made from the left over brooches from our wedding:

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It’s the focal piece in my quiet space that is just for me.

And I also made this one thinking I would use it in my new space but it ended up in the bathroom as a decoration on a bare wall in there.  I have a different way I want to go with my focal point wall 🙂

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However until it all comes together, I have my journal and I have my appointment with the LORD everyday.  I know my marriage is much stronger, my children are happier and good things are happening all around us because of my prayer life.  For that, I am truly blessed!

God bless and have a good night!

Myra

A Very Blessed Woman in TX

Christian Living · Christian Wife · prayer · Proverbs 31 · workathomemoms

Franks Lavendar Mint Facial Scrub and Franks Facial Cream

I know there are a thousand recipes out there but here is my version and my reason.  Today was an extremely stressful day.  What am I saying?   This whole week has been stressful.  I won’t go into the negative details because I do not believe in feeding into and giving recognition to the chaos and negativity around me.  However, that said, today I came home from work in just in time to pamper myself and feed my spirt.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:  2-4

Lee dropped off the kids with my parents this morning since we will be busy the next couple of days caring for our careers and my parents help us gear up for Marissa’s Graduation Party this Saturday (the emotional graduation post is coming this weekend-stay tuned!).  Did I mention how awesome my parents are?  Always helping me with my kids and our needs.  They are the two most supportive people in my life next to Lee and the kids.  But I digress 🙂 wpid-img_20150610_071659.jpg

When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul. Psalm 94:19

I was blessed to come home in time to spend quality time with him and myself.  In my self time, I turned on my diffuser with some Joy EO and Purification EO……..best smell around and really elevates the mood in the home.  Plus it smells good.  Next I decided I needed a quick fix so I fixed my energy drink:  Water, 3 drops of Peppermint Oil and 5 drops of Citrus Fresh Oil then I add E-Mer-Gen-C.  It looks like the pic to the right.  Yummy stuff.  The 5 lbs I’ve lost is just an added benefit…….woot!woot!

Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. Psalm 55:22

So, after my drink I decided I needed some pampering.  So, I made some face scrub and face cream since my mom took mine.  Here’s how I did it:

Franks Lavendar Mint Face Scrub

1/3 cup granulated sugar

1 TBSP Honey

4-5 TBSP Coconut Oil

10 drops Frankincense

10 drops Lavendar

5 drops Peppermint

Mix together in a glass container so all ingredients are combined.  Store in a dark cool place.  To use:  scoop out a small amount on your fingers (I use a popsicle stick to mix it up as the honey and oils will settle).  A little goes a long way.  Scrub lightly.  Wet a washcloth with hot water and place over the face to steam.  When the cloth is cooled wipe off and pat dry with a dry towel.  You will feel the minty tingling.  It’s a phenomenal feeling.  Only use once a week.

Franks Facial Cream

1/3 cup Coconut Oil

10 drops of Frankincense

10 drops of Lavendar

5 drops of Purificiation

Whip the oil for 5 minutes with a hand mixer or Kitchen Aid mixer. Remember to use a stainless steel or glass bowl.  I mix mine in the mason jars I use with my hand mixer and only use one whip.  Next, add the essential oils and whip another 5 minutes.  Before using I let it sit and settle.  It feels awesome on your skin.

WARNING:  This is a very moisture rich lotion.  A little goes a long way.    a little dab will cover your entire face, hands and arms.

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Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
To finish out a fabulous day with the fiance, we went to Texas Roadhouse for an early dinner with no children-just me and Lee having adult conversation with no little ear around.  Now that was the best part of my day.  When I finish this post we will go spend some much needed quiet time on the couch vegging out for the night!
I am blessed!
Goodnight and God Bless
Myra
A Blessed Woman in TX
Christian Living · Christian Wife · prayer · Proverbs 31

The Blessings of Rain

For the last few weeks, our time has been limited.  From October to April Lee was here with us every other weekend come you know what and high water!  From April to now, we have had one weekend together and a few days in between where we could see eachother for a quick lunch or quick dinner before one of us was heading back to our respective towns.

Lee has been preparing for his graduation from his LCDC program to become a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor Intern.  I have been dealing with my career which is in full swing, managing my son’s baseball schedule, and trying to spend as much time as possible with my Senior girl as she prepares for adulthood.  Oh and to top it off, I’ve been preparing for our wedding.

To say the least, life has been overwhelming for both of us!!!!

Lee and I started to get snippy, quippy and cranky with each other.  The stress got the best of all of us-me, Lee, and the kids.  So, I did this weird thing–I told Lee how I felt.  What?  Communication?  Yes, we should all try it!!!!  I won’t go into the details of our conversations but we both said hurtful things over the past few weeks and we were both about to explode.  SO, I had a conversation with God one day and this is what he told me :

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9

Okay, God I hear you!  We needed to come together as one again and face life together.  WOW!  What an awakening that was for me.  I realized my next conversation needed to be with Lee.  I mean really, my dog was coming between us?  Um, no that was not going to happen!  So, I took this big leap of faith and discussed nicely how I was feeling with Lee.  Something amazing happened.  He felt the same way and it had nothing to do with the dog!!!!   We found resolution to our problem before it became a big problem.

I was forced to look at myself in all this as well.  It is so easy to blame others.  It is so easy to say HE DID IT ALL WRONG.  This is something our society does well.  However, I know I am as much to blame as he was for all the things we both were feeling.  I owned it and fixed it; so did Lee.

I felt neglected because he was constantly serving the Ministry he serves and finishing his school work.  He felt neglected because I was constantly busy with work and kids.  Sound familiar?

He came to town last week and God gave us this blessing in our life-RAIN!  Baseball game cancelled.  Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing I love more than watching our son play baseball.  He is my favorite player.  However, lately it has been baseball 24/7.  Between Mac’s games and the TX Rangers constantly on my TV at home, I have to admit I was a little baseballed out.  The rain was just the break we needed.

That next day we spent the day together.  I worked from home and he did too.  We had lunch together, later ran errands together, and ended our night at my office helping one of my agents move some furniture into our office.  As simple as all that sounds, it was one of the best days we have had in a while.  We didn’t do anything “special” but my time with him was special because it was something we haven’t had in a while-togetherness.  Lee made me and our family the priority and so did I.  We discussed his business plans and I updated him on my office projects.  We discussed us, the wedding, the kids and just got back to the basics of all things Lee and Myra.

We are back on track.

Lee is my best friend and the first to know anything I know.  He treats me like a princess.  To the point where he spoon feeds me ice cream; it’s kinda the only way I will eat now when we are at home LOL The kids say we are disgusting because he takes very good care of me and my needs.  However, we both let the stress get to us and let it affect our relationship. We let it get bad.  Going forward we will do the following:

  • Put God first and foremost in our relationship
  • Pray; pray for ourselves, pray for each other, pray alone, pray together; pray for our goals as individuals, as a family and as business partners in ministry.
  • Communicate:  We have never been that couple that runs out of things to say. We just haven’t made time to really talk.  I call it “getting naked” because you have to go deep and not stay just on the surface. We talk about his plans, my plans and how they can unite.   We’ve always been that way.
  • Make Time:  We had become that couple who were two ships passing in the night; NEVER AGAIN! We will make time daily to talk and weekly to get away from everything.  And for Memorial Day Weekend we will be detached-no cell phones or laptops (this will however be a challenge for me so please pray).  We are taking a family vacation to San Antonio, however it is still time together as the kids drive with headphones in their ears we will talk for the 2 hour commute.

Although I am now tired of the rain we have seen here in Texas, I thank God for it.  Who knows where we would be if it hadn’t happened.  Once again, God blessed me and us with what we needed.

So tonight I leave with this verse I pray over Lee everyday.  I hope it resonates with you and your significant other/husband/wife

But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Ruth 1:16

Goodnight and God Bless,

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife · motherhood · prayer · Proverbs 31

Lessons from an Overworked Mom of Teenagers

Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:3-5

Being a single mom for many years, I prayed for the day my children would grow up.  I thought it meant I wouldn’t be needed anymore.  However, as I threw myself into my career over the last year and a half I look back and realize how much I missed just in the last 3 years with my daughter and all my children.

The other day we filled my middle child’s application to Texas A&M PATHS program.  Now, I have known since this child was born that this day would come.  However, since I have slowed down I realize how out of touch with my children I have become.  I have missed so many important moments in their lives.  She brought home her cap and gown order form.  This next weekend we do Sr. Pictures and I ask myself one question “Where did all our time go?”.

I look back and realize somewhere I was misinformed.  I thought once my children were old enough to care for themselves I wasn’t needed anymore.  Also, as the mother to a special needs child in the back of my mind I knew that raising a special needs child never stops. However, there comes a time I had to stop.  I had to stop because I was tired.  I was weary.  I could not do it by myself anymore.

Although I had relationships in the 14 years Lee and I were separated from one another, they were not fruitful relationships.  I still took care of me and mine all on my own.  However, as I look back now I realize where I didn’t take care of me.  Because I was alone I did everything for all three of my children 24/7.  I did not set boundaries.  I turned my back on God because of a disagreement and I was not fulfilled.  I thought things would fulfill me.  I thought this man who came into my life 3 years ago was the answer.

For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.  Romans 6:23

But honestly, if I had looked up to God instead of around me for things I would have found my solace.  As parents we struggle with balance.  As a special needs parent, that balance is even harder to maintain.  You run and run and run.  You worry and you run some more.  You go from Dr. appt to dr. appt to therapy appts.  You are up late at night cleaning up messes.  You are up early in the morning fixing special meals.  You are given this precious special gift that God created for you and as much as you love him or her you get tired.  However, I now know it is okay to be tired!    I now know God is my refuge.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”  Psalms 46:1

“It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect. He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he enables me to stand on the heights. He trains my hands for battle; my arms can bend a bow of bronze. You give me your shield of victory, and your right hand sustains me; you stoop down to make me great. You broaden the path beneath me, so that my ankles do not turn.”  Psalm 18:32-36

For years, I felt guilty leaving my oldest and youngest however leaving my middle child was harder.  But because I did not take care of me I ran away.  I hid in my career for the last one and a half years.  It was my escape from dealing with life at home.  I ran away from the most important years in my daughter’s life and I am ashamed of what I did to her.  I abandoned all my children this last year. I am ashamed of what I had become running and hiding from my home and what I needed to deal with.

Two to three days a week I was in DFW.  Weekends I was in DFW.  Two to three days a week I was in Waco, Temple and/or Austin.  I left home at 5 or 6 am and got home anywhere from 2 -3 am or even 2-3 days.  I wore myself out to the point that over the last 3 weeks as I began to slow down I have been battling walking pneumonia.   All because I was too selfish to give it to God and let Him guide my ways.

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:6-9

However, I have talked to many friends and we have all done this at some point.  We have to find the balance between being a parent, a child, a spouse, and being yourself.  It is not easy.  However, I am finding peace now as I transition to a more family friendly schedule.  I am finding this peace because of one simple fact–I give it all to God now.  He guides my ways not me or my children.

God has shown me that no matter how old my children are I am still mom.  I will never stop being mom no matter how old my children grow up to be in this life.  My 24 year old still needs me as much as my 13 year old needs me.  The needs are different, but I am still parenting.   I am sharing my faith more with them.  I am enjoying conversations with each child on their lives.  I actually talk to my middle daughter now about her day and it has made a significant much needed change in her life.

This weekend I did nothing.  I am tired.  I am weak. I am this way because I did it to myself.  I overbooked my schedule. I wore myself out!  I made my job my priority instead of God and family.  Learn from my mistakes.  God is first and your family is second and everything else follows.  This is why your quiet time is so important.  I know my best days start in the word with God.   If you are too busy for God and your family, you are too busy for anything else!

I am blessed with a family who forgives me for my mistakes.  I am blessed with a mom and dad who love me and help me and my children through anything we need.  I am blessed with three beautiful children and a very loving and supportive man.  And going forward, I will make sure they know how important they are to me.

“Lord, you have assigned me my portion and my cup; you have made my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance. I will praise the Lord, who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me. I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.”  Psalm 16:5-8

Goodnight and God Bless,

A Blessed Woman