Christian Living · Christian Wife · motherhood · prayer

What Keeps Me Apart from God-Part 3

Uncategorized

Getting it Together in 2015

And the Lord answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. Habakkuk 2:2 ESV

As a traveling business woman and mother to an active 13 year old and 17 year old, as well as being a mom to a newly career oriented 24 year old who has launched into adulthood, staying organized is essential.  I am often asked how I maintain my schedule, my bosses schedule, my kids’ activities and my home.  Now factor in a wedding to plan because in 2015 I’m adding a husband to the mix.  Not just any husband but one who will be serving the Lord through ministry.  So now we will be living under a microscope.  No pressure here!!!

I would love to sit here and paint you a fairy tale picture that every morning we get up and life runs perfectly-my devotional time, family prayer time, breakfast cooked, lunches packed, kids out the door, dog walked, eat as a family every night at the table, and we have this awesome system we follow and we are in bed by 9 pm with an immaculately cleaned home.  However, God tells me I cannot lie-it doesn’t.

I live in Central TX and Lee lives in DFW.  My job requires me to travel up and down I-35 from Dallas to Austin and sometimes I have to divert my path down I-20 to go out to Longivew/Tyler.  Lee is finishing up his schooling for his LCDC program and also working on his doctorate in Christian Counseling as well as his ministry work.  We are swamped!!!  Lee can start his day in prayer and scripture with no problem in his home but when he visits us every other weekend he feels my pain.  He has been known to get wrapped up in the chaos and our days bend in a different direction than we intended.

There are more mornings than I care to admit that life gets hectic from the time I get up.  We overslept.  Clothes are not dried from the previous evening.  Papers are not signed.  Cranky kids.  You name it, it can go wrong in our house.  There are also more evenings than I care to admit that we are sitting at BJ’s or Sol De Jalisco’s eating dinner.  We get home late from baseball or football (10:30 or 11 pm) or my daughter’s therapy hits right in the middle of dinner.  You name the interruption, we have seen it.

I could tell you  I’m at peace with this but again I cannot lie and I am not.

Honestly, life as a mother alone can be overwhelming.

  • Mom I need
  • Mom can you sign
  • Mom, don’t forget
  • Mom, come get me
  • Mom can you take me (and my friends)

Life as an assistant just makes it even more interesting.

  • Where is the producer report
  • When do I go to DFW
  • What meetings do I have today
  • Who do I meet with today
  • Are the focus groups organized
  • When will you have that done
  • I need that yesterday

And the list goes on…………

Sometimes, it can be very overwhelming when you are on the phone at home scheduling a meeting while cooking dinner, signing school papers, texting coaches and the fiance all at the same time.   It is in these moments  I remember through Him who gives me strength I can do anything! (Phillippians 4:13).  Once I remind myself of this, I am at peace.

In 2015 I have resolved to get and keep my family organized.  To do so, I have done some soul searching and this is how our family will manage in 2015.

  1. God
  2. Family
  3. Work
  4. Everything else follows

We will also follow four simple rules:

  1. If you take it out, put it back
  2. If you open it, close it
  3. If you throw it down, pick it up.
  4. If you take it off, hang it up

These 8 things will make a huge difference in our home.  But for me to truly stay organized and on top of what I need to get done I, myself, must do some things.

Study the Word, Live in the Word, and Live the Word

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3:16-17

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Joshua 1:8

The foundation of any relationship begins with God.  In order for me to not be overwhelmed and living a hectic life I must stay focused on Him and thank Him for all he has given me.  God tells us in 2 Timothy chapter 3 that he gave us the scriptures to properly equip us to do our jobs-as children, as wives, as mothers, and as an everyday individual.  There is no circumstance in life where we cannot refer back to His word in the Bible.  We must also meditate on it day and night as directed from God.  So in 2015 I will do the following to maintain that relationship with Him.

  • Join a Bible Study
  • Read the Bible Cover to Cover (Reading through the Word with Wendy Pope is awesome)
  • Be an example to my children and others around me
  • Start and end my day in devotion and prayer
  • Learn to pray for my husband to be and my children
  • Learn to be a prayer warrior

Get Healthy and Fit

Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple. 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 

Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul. 3 John 1:2

I cannot be a good wife and mother if I am unfit and unhealthy.  I will not have the strength to keep up with the demands of my family.  God also tells us that our health has a direct correlation to our soul.  That makes this girl ready to change everything!  I need a healthy soul. To get that healthy soul I must do the following so God’s temple is not destroyed.

  • Exercise 5 days a week-cardio and strength
  • Drink 1/2 my weight in water daily
  • Eat at home 5 nights of week
  • Be in bed early

Prepare Daily, Weekly and Monthly

But all things should be done decently and in order. 1 Corinthians 14:40

Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood. Acts 20:28

Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 1Timothy 3:2

The Lord tells us to pay special attention to the details of all you have been blessed with to oversee in life.  The first thing anyone must do for anything is prepare and make a plan.  We all have those daily, weekly and monthly things we must do.  But how do we remember them all?  For me I had to get organized and call on Erin Condren.  Now I do the following:

  • The last Sunday of the previous month write down all monthly standing meetings for work and kids’ activities, add practice schedules and game schedules for kids , standing dr. appts and monthly to-do’s
  • Every Saturday night review standing meetings, update the calendar with additions and confirm changes, confirm dr. appts, and update with any additional to-do’s
  • Every night before bed review the next day’s schedule and to-do list and update as needed
  • Make laminated lists that can be reused-groceries, to-do’s, etc

2015 almost got away from me without what my kids call my 4-1-1 book, but last week this box arrived at my doorstep:

wpid-img_20141230_191306.jpgTomorrow I will show you how I use this to stay in touch with God while I plan and live my over-scheduled life as a traveling mom of 2 teenagers, a 24 year old, and the fiance to a true Man of God.  I would not have it any other way.  I am blessed beyond measure.

Good night and God Bless,

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife · Proverbs 31 · Uncategorized

Proverbs 31- A Different New Year’s Resolution

As 2014 comes to a close, I am very excited about what 2015 brings for our family. However, I must prepare for the road ahead of me. The only way I will survive what God has in store for me and my family is to live my life as Proverbs 31 directs in verses 10-31. That is not an easy feat! But my New Year’s resolution for 2015 is to be her………

We all feel as though we will never live up to God’s image for us as women, as wives, as mother’s and as the Christian women God asks us to be. The outline he gave us seems impossible. But we can! How? Because God tells us we can do anything through Him (Philippians 4:13).

A few months ago, I was struggling with this and voiced my concerns to some friends. It was then I received what I call the Proverbs 31 challenge. I was instructed to read this proverb daily from a wise woman in the community. As I read it, I am to pray for God’s guidance on what I need to work on that day (lately its been weekly). This has helped shape who I am as a Christian woman today.

The Proverbs 31 woman carries virtue, faithfulness, reverence, and goodness. She is a willing worker, good manager, and industrious. She has strength, endurance, and is well rounded. She is charitable, a provider and well dressed. She is the wife of a good husband, a good business woman as well as honorable, wise, and kind. She is a good mother who is busy, praiseworthy,and attains or excels in all she does or tries. But most of all she carries a fear of the Lord and is fruit bearing.

That’s a lot to live up to! I know I fall short most days. However, if I’m putting in the work to achieve these characteristics neither I nor God can be upset.  This is why it means the world to me when Lee tells me I’m being a good Proverbs 31 woman.  Sounds silly, but when you look at what it really entails, it’s the best compliment you can give a Christian woman.

I am blessed to have a man who loves me enough to not only hold me to those standards but to give me recognition when I live up to them.

Goodnight and God Bless!
A Blessed Woman

THE CHALLENGE: Read the passage below daily and find what you can work on to improve your journey of becoming more like a Proverbs 31 woman.

DIG DEEPER: Do a search on the traits listed above and find verses to help you pray through to help you become what God intended for you, your husband, your children, your family and your friends.

JOURNAL STARTER: God, I have burning desire to live as the woman You intended me to be. To do so I need to: _________________________

PRAYER: Father God, I ask that you guide us through this journey called life You have given to each of us. Tonight, I ask You bring your hand of grace and favor to all women. Place it upon our hearts to live for You as You have defined in our instruction manuals known as the Bible. Give us the burning desire to live as You have instructed for us. Guide us through this great challenge you have left with us to live as a Proverbs 31 woman. Help us find the 15 minutes we need to read the passage and meditate on Your word. It is in Your name and the name of Your son, Jesus Christ I pray. AMEN!

Please leave a comment. Feedback is always appreciated.

PROVERBS 31: 10-31
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 [a]A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.