In the blog, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl I discussed 10 steps to gaining confidence. I also folowed up with Step 1 in the blog How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 1. In this blog I explain the most important step of picking up your crown and owning it- coming to know God through a personal relationship with our LORD and Savior, Jesus Christ. Another very important step in being able to pick up your crown is to Give the Glory to God ALWAYS and to honor Him ALWAYS!
Let’s face it it’s easy to love God and praise Him when things are going right but when things are falling apart it’s hard to say “thank you, LORD”. I know, I’ve been there and done that. I tithed when things were great and didn’t when they were bad. I prayed when things were good and didn’t when they were bad. When everything in my life fell apart, I blamed Him instead of praising him through the storm.
giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, ~Ephesians 5:20
The Bible does NOT say give thanks to God when things are good. It says FOR EVERYTHING (good or bad). This is very hard to do. When I was learning this lesson I was living in a hotel because I had lost my job, got evicted from my home, and I had 3 children to raise and feed. ALL BY MYSELF! This was during a period in time when finding a job was next to impossible. The economy had taken a downward spiral and jobs were scarce.
So that weekly hotel you pass on the highway and think who stays there weekly? Well, me and my children did. The PTA mom, the soccer mom, the baseball mom, the Jr. Leaguer with her hair done just right and dressed just like you -she stayed there. This is why I never judge a book by its cover-I’ve been that book misjudged many times. I know what is happening on the outside is not a true representation of what is happening on the inside.
I look back on what seemed to be a very dark moment in my life and I am reminded of how great God really is because as I look back on that moment I am reminded of a what was born from me being there in that moment of time. A sweet friend of mine came to visit me at my worst at that hotel and as I was crying about my circumstance and complaining about my life, she saw a need I could not see. All I saw around me was MY situation.
Out of my darkest moment a very good ministry was founded for the children who lived there. Kids playing soccer next to a highway. Kids running around without solid parental guidance. Teens having sex in the hallways and rooms of a hotel because of the lifestyle they were raised in. They finally had a voice through my sweet friend and her Life Group from church.
Funds were raised and kids who didn’t know what a Christmas tree was like or the joy of decorating for Christmas suddenly found that joy. Children and parents were mentored on a life with Jesus and still are because I weathered a storm. Because although I reached my lowest moment in my life; there were families reaching one of the highest moments in their lives-coming to know the LORD. Only God could make that happen. But if I had not lived in that place for that season of my life, it never would have happened. My life made that happen. That, my friends, is very empowering to know my life impacted others in that way.
I could tell you countless stories of weathering the storm, we all have them. Some of us have more than others. But the biggest lesson I learned through all my trials was that God DOES have a plan for me. He does have a hope and a future for me. I just have to listen to my Heavenly Father and see the beauty being created even when my life is a hot mess for that hot minute. That, my sweet friends, was so empowering to me.
My life is very blessed now but I have a past. I had shame from bad relationships and poor choices in men. I had guilt from bad choices that led to sexual promiscuity and poor financial management. I had loneliness from low self esteem. Sound familiar? Good news is that it will get better. You see one day I found out I have Jesus and my whole life changed. My Jesus is my friend and he held my hand when I thought no one else in the world was there.He led me to Central Texas. He brought me to my beautiful life in my beautiful home with my amazing husband, my three beautiful children and friends who are now family.
It wasn’t easy and it has taken a lot of healing and a lot of forgiveness of others and myself. It took me realizing that no matter what God has a plan and no matter what He deserves the glory for all my hurts, all my pains, and all my success. Without the trials and tribulations I would not be who I am today. I would not know a life with God. I would not be a mother who prays for her children not to know the experiences I endured in my life. I would not be a wife who submits to her husband and prays for him daily. I would be a lost soul walking on this earth filled with pain, filled with misery, and void of the love and laughter that my family and friends today bring me.
It’s not easy to always give the glory to God. Sometimes we forget. We are human, it happens. But I have prayed for God to convict me when I fail to praise him even during the bad times and He does.
My challenge to you today is simple: Find your hope and your future even when you are in the storm. See the beauty in your hot mess moments. We all have them. Turn the negative into a positive. Know that no matter where you are in life at this moment that God, and ONLY God brought you to where you are today. GIVE HIM THE GLORY FOR IT ALL! But most importantly, know that even when we are a hot mess in those hot minute moments we still deserve to pick up our crowns and a know that even when we feel no one else is there our Heavenly Father is because we are the daughters of the King of Kings and LORD of Lords.
And that my sweet friends, makes all of us blessed women!
A Blessed Woman in TX