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I Am Blessed; He Found Favor

Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”
 Luke 1:45

The Hutchesons and Medinas
The Hutcheson’s and Medina’s

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22

On July 25 Lee and I had close to 90 of our closest friends and family in our backyard to celebrate one of the biggest events in our lives.  It was one of the greatest joys to see all 6 of our children at one time.

All your children shall be taught by the LORD, and great shall be the peace of your children. Isaiah 54:13

The Boys
Josh, Mac and Austin

These 6 young men and young women are our greatest joys.  They gave us 8 beautiful grandchildren.  They have given us and continue to give us some beautiful memories like the 3 boys playing baseball in our front yard at our rehearsal dinner or the girls helping me get ready on our wedding day.

They are our proudest accomplishments in life.  Lee’s kids drove 5-6 hours from Oklahoma to be there for us.  They toted 7 of 8 grandchildren with them.  My kids were voluntold to be in full wedding mode for the entire week.  We had to attend a State Baseball Tournament and get the house ready for company and it was just Lee and I.  Were there mishaps?  OH YES!  Did it go as planned?  OH NO!

The heat was grueling outside as well as inside our home.  The ceremony had some

Marissa, Megan and Natalie
Marissa, Megan and Natalie

mishaps. The misters never got turned on, the unity candle was forgotten our minister forgot parts of the ceremony and that was just the ceremony.  The reception went to who knows where very quickly.  We did not have the father-daughter dance, we did not have our first dance.  We changed, we ate, we cut the cake and then we were off to our honeymoon.  If it could go wrong that day, it did. It was so bad the photographer had to remind us we never took our picture alone together right before we left out the door for San Antonio.  Over 300 pics taken and only 2 were of me and Lee together-at the end of the day, tired, worn out and exhausted.

Neither side of my mom or dad’s family showed up.  Only one aunt thought enough of us to send a gift out of 9 aunts and uncles and about 10 cousins.  Not that it is about the gifts but even a card or acknowledgement would have been nice.

I was a little saddened because this vision of the day I had in my head did not happen. My wedding party was hot and cranky.  Our to-do lists did not get followed.  Lee and I had to escape many times for a couple minutes alone to regroup.  But at the end of the day, I Groomsmenwould do it all over again.   I am Lee’s wife and the people who mattered most showed up for us.  I became Mrs. Hutcheson and for the rest of my life I will have my best friend for better or worse.  I am blessed to have a man who puts me on a pedestal. I am his queen and he is my king and together we will love and serve the LORD in our home.

Whatever happened or didn’t happen that day, I will always remember the day of our firstBridesmaids kiss as man and wife.  I will remember it was in our backyard of the first home we now share as man and wife with 2 of our 6 children. I will remember the happiness that came upon me as he slipped that ring on my finger. I will remember we have a lifetime of memories to be made together.

My life isn’t perfect but it’s the perfect life for me.  It is the one God intended for us.  Lee and I will live it out together getting our son through high school and transitioning our daughter to adulthood.  We will begin Lee’s ministry work and I will continue to share my love for the senior population playing bingo, doing arts n crafts, and sharing my guidance on Medicare and community resources to help them.  This is the life!

Me with my two boys-Mac and Chase
Me with my two boys-Mac and Chase

On July 25, 2015 God gave me the biggest blessing I have ever been given besides my 3 children.  He blessed me with the most amazing man who I can say is my best friend, my personal pastor, my life-mate, my love.  He is my husband!

God Bless and Goodnight!

Myra

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · decorating · prayer · Proverbs 31 · single moms

How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 1

Revelation 3.20

In the blog, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl I discussed 10 steps to gaining confidence.  So step 1 to pick up your crown and owning it, is to come to know the Lord through a personal relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  I know that at this point you are probably thinking oh great another preaching on getting closer to God and I will tell you, YES!  You are probably also thinking, I’m a bad person.  God doesn’t want people like me.  God only wants “good” people.  Wrong!  I tell everyone, especially my kids, there was only ONE perfect person on this earth and his name is Jesus Christ born of the Virgin Mary.  Who is your mother and What is your name?

My mother is Benita Medina and I am Myra Medina. I am not perfect!   When I first came to know God I was in this position:  Single mom, 3 kids, 3 different dads, raised Catholic praying to Saints and Mary, obviously with 3 children I had fallen from grace many times and had just an all around unhappiness.  I had just left the one man in this life who I thought loved me more than anything and he did except for two things-alcohol and drugs.  I had transitioned from our beautiful home with cars lining the driveway for every occasion to no car, no job, living with my parents and no way of taking of myself.  I had a man who paid the bills, took care of the cars and yard and all I had to do was go workout, clean the house and cook dinner on occasion.  I could not tell you anything about our home and its expenses except that we lived on Oak Tree Lane in Midlothian, TX and it was clean.     So, at that time I came to know Jesus all I could think was “Why me, Lord?”

Soon tragedy struck my middle child, Marissa, and I found the Lord through a stranger at the hospital.  Life did not instantly turn to sunshine and roses but it did get easier day by day.  I had grown up a very spoiled child.  I then found a man who played into that and gave me everything I wanted needed and desired.  I rarely from the time I was a baby to the time I was about 30 heard the word “no” from anyone.  I stuck my nose up in the air to people and situations.  Between my parents and Lee I had everything I ever wanted and so did my children.  But that night in the hospital my whole life changed.  Over time I came to know this man named Jesus.  For many years to follow He was my one true love.  He was a father to my children.  He was my everything I had been searching for.  And He told me No many, many times.  We fought about that on several occasions but i quickly found that unanswered prayers are still answered prayers

To get to this relationship with the Lord has taken many years, a lot of faith and a path down a road-The Roman’s Road.  I have heard salvation preached many different ways.  But when I heard from a very dear friend of mine about the Roman’s Road I thought he was crazy.  But he wanted me to better understand what I was committing to in my new relationship with the Lord.  It is the best explanation I have heard.

” For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of the Lord”  Romans 3:23 NKJV;

No matter if you are what you think to be a good person or what some think of as a bad person God sees that ALL have sinned.  Not some but ALL have sinned.  He also tells us that ALL fall short of God’s glory as well.  Think about that.  ALL fall short!  Whether you are a sexual predator or “good” person doing works God tells us that we ALL fall short.

As it is written “there is none righteous, no, not one; Romans 3:10 NKJV

Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned.  Romans 5:12

What are God’s laws?  What does the Bible tell us and where do we begin to learn the basic principles of living.  Simple:  The 10 commandments.  Have you lied?  Have you disrespected your parents?  Did you play keeping up with the Jones’ because you coveted your neighbors goods?  You have broken God’s law and God tells us in James 2:10 For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all.

Step 1:  Admit you are a sinner

For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our LORD.  Romans 6:23

Sin leads to death.  There is also something known as a spiritual death.  It occurs when we continuously sin.  It alienates us from God and it can last for eternity.  There is a place called Hell for those who die this kind of death..  But when we come to know Jesus our sins die and God gives us the gift of Grace.  Grace is the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.

Step 2: Understand that our sins deserve the death penalty

Step 3:  Ask God to forgive you of your sins and save you

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.  Romans 5:8

God tells us in John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus died on the cross for us and our sins. He paid the final price for our sins with the understanding we believe in Him and what He does for us. The wages of sin have been paid! 

Step 4:  Believe in Him and accepts his gift of life; Give your life to God!

 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:9-10

So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. Romans 10:17

Step 5:  If you feel God knocking on your heart, open it for Him.  Ask Him to come into your heart and save you!

Ask God to come into your heart and make you new.  God tells us in revelations all we have to do is ask for He says “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me. Revelation 3:20 

So, if you feel called, ask!  Even if you have been saved and feel the need to rededicate your life-ask!  The only guaranteed no from God is the unasked question!  I have rededicated my life recently because I have not always been on a straight path with Jesus.  But I am now!  And this time, it’s a lifetime commitment.  That’s the blessing of my relationship with the LORD.  He is always there for me-unconditionally whenever I am ready to receive Him.  No matter how bad I messed up or how far I have strayed, just as a mother loves her child, God loves us.

Step 6:  The final step is to pray!  Pray a prayer of salvation that includes all the steps above.  Invite Jesus into your heart and see how your life changes day by day.

As I have said, life will not be sunshine and roses immediately.  But over time, you will learn as you dig deeper in God’s word that You, my dear sister in Christ, deserve God’s grace and favor.  You are precious in His sight. No matter where you are right now you can dust yourself off and have a conversation with the LORD and be saved!

You are a child of the most high God.  He is the King of kings and LORD of lords.  So, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl!  Then get connected in a church community, bible study,  online bible study, and whatever you need to keep you grounded in the faith of Jesus Christ who saves you!

Send us a prayer request and let us know you have accepted God as your Lord and savior.  If you have questions, ask!  I am here to help and bless those with the knowledge I’ve received and help spread the joy of the LORD!  I will pray for you and answer any questions you might have.  If you give us your address, we might just send something special in the mail for you.

I am blessed to have shared this word with you today!

God bless and goodnight!

Myra

A Blessed Woman in Texas

Christian Living · cooking · motherhood · prayer · Proverbs 31 · single moms · workathomemoms

Oils and Starbucks Do Mix!

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Pick Up Your Crown, Girl!

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14

As I reflect on my week, I realize how much I have counseled women on confidence!  This breaks my heart for a lot of reason but mostly because I know the feeling.  I have been beaten down.  I have been used and abused emotionally, sexually and physically.  I have carried shame.  I have carried guilt.  But then God put all these amazing people around me to show me how fearfully and wonderfully made I truly am.  True story, they are all church-going, actively involved Christians.  Amazing people!

I could not have done life without them guiding me, leading by example.  I have been shown that I can do life and overcome my past.  But most important of all, I was shown that God, the most high Heavenly Father, loves me no matter what.  When I was alone, He was with me.  When I was a single mom, he was my co-parent. As I look back at that time when I was feeling unsure of myself, I realize how much even though I wasn’t being loyal to Him, He was carrying me and loyal to me.

which God will bring about in his own time–God, the blessed and only Ruler, the King of kings and Lord of lords,
 1 Timothy 6:15

I wish someone had told me what I told the women I spoke to this week, including my daughters.  I told them to “Pick up your crown, girl”! Every little girl, young lady, grown woman on this earth deserves to wear a crown.  We are the princesses of the most High God. He is the King of kings and Lord of lords.  He himself tells us in Psalm 139:14 that we are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Who else do we need to hear it from?  God is about as high as you can go when it comes to the food chain! God asks you this question in Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. How are you going to answer Him?

I didn’t get over my confidence issues easily. It took some action steps.  Here they are in written form ( I will expand on these in the days to come):

  • Accepted God as my Lord and Savior
  • Give God the Glory always for all the good stuff
  • Keep honoring God and being faithful to Him during the hard times
  • Find a good church based Bible study and join the women’s group
  • Study the word at home
    • Read your Bible
    • Set time aside each and every day for God
  • Pray, Pray, and Pray some more
  • Find my worth
  • Find my value
  • Surround yourself with sisters in Christ who lift you up
  • Find a mentor or two or three 🙂

The best resource I have read on this is Tracie Miles’ book “Your Life Still Counts“.  Awesome read and worth the time to sift through the pages of it and the Bible.  Tracie currently has a bible study (click here for more information) and the Facebook group is here.  If you can’t afford the book, you can message them privately, they have resources to send you one.  All excuses removed!

I close by saying this:  Pick up your crown, Girl.  You are a valuable resource to those around you.  You are a beautiful child, young lady, and/or grown woman who is fearfully and wonderfully made.  If noone else tells you this, I just did.  I don’t know you but I do know you are a child of God and God does not make mistakes!!!

God bless!

Myra 🙂

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife · prayer · Proverbs 31 · workathomemoms

Franks Lavendar Mint Facial Scrub and Franks Facial Cream

I know there are a thousand recipes out there but here is my version and my reason.  Today was an extremely stressful day.  What am I saying?   This whole week has been stressful.  I won’t go into the negative details because I do not believe in feeding into and giving recognition to the chaos and negativity around me.  However, that said, today I came home from work in just in time to pamper myself and feed my spirt.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:  2-4

Lee dropped off the kids with my parents this morning since we will be busy the next couple of days caring for our careers and my parents help us gear up for Marissa’s Graduation Party this Saturday (the emotional graduation post is coming this weekend-stay tuned!).  Did I mention how awesome my parents are?  Always helping me with my kids and our needs.  They are the two most supportive people in my life next to Lee and the kids.  But I digress 🙂 wpid-img_20150610_071659.jpg

When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul. Psalm 94:19

I was blessed to come home in time to spend quality time with him and myself.  In my self time, I turned on my diffuser with some Joy EO and Purification EO……..best smell around and really elevates the mood in the home.  Plus it smells good.  Next I decided I needed a quick fix so I fixed my energy drink:  Water, 3 drops of Peppermint Oil and 5 drops of Citrus Fresh Oil then I add E-Mer-Gen-C.  It looks like the pic to the right.  Yummy stuff.  The 5 lbs I’ve lost is just an added benefit…….woot!woot!

Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. Psalm 55:22

So, after my drink I decided I needed some pampering.  So, I made some face scrub and face cream since my mom took mine.  Here’s how I did it:

Franks Lavendar Mint Face Scrub

1/3 cup granulated sugar

1 TBSP Honey

4-5 TBSP Coconut Oil

10 drops Frankincense

10 drops Lavendar

5 drops Peppermint

Mix together in a glass container so all ingredients are combined.  Store in a dark cool place.  To use:  scoop out a small amount on your fingers (I use a popsicle stick to mix it up as the honey and oils will settle).  A little goes a long way.  Scrub lightly.  Wet a washcloth with hot water and place over the face to steam.  When the cloth is cooled wipe off and pat dry with a dry towel.  You will feel the minty tingling.  It’s a phenomenal feeling.  Only use once a week.

Franks Facial Cream

1/3 cup Coconut Oil

10 drops of Frankincense

10 drops of Lavendar

5 drops of Purificiation

Whip the oil for 5 minutes with a hand mixer or Kitchen Aid mixer. Remember to use a stainless steel or glass bowl.  I mix mine in the mason jars I use with my hand mixer and only use one whip.  Next, add the essential oils and whip another 5 minutes.  Before using I let it sit and settle.  It feels awesome on your skin.

WARNING:  This is a very moisture rich lotion.  A little goes a long way.    a little dab will cover your entire face, hands and arms.

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Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
To finish out a fabulous day with the fiance, we went to Texas Roadhouse for an early dinner with no children-just me and Lee having adult conversation with no little ear around.  Now that was the best part of my day.  When I finish this post we will go spend some much needed quiet time on the couch vegging out for the night!
I am blessed!
Goodnight and God Bless
Myra
A Blessed Woman in TX
Christian Living · Christian Wife · motherhood · prayer · Proverbs 31 · workathomemoms

The Essentials

Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.” James 5:14(NKJV)

My step daughter and I have not been very close over the years.  When Lee and I dated initially Natalie was in OK and we were in TX. She came a few times over the summer months but for the most part she was not able to be around 24/7.  She was a beautiful little girl then and has grown to be a gorgeous young woman.  She is now a mother of a beautiful 7 month old and understands parenthood from our perspective now.  Needless to say a lot has been forgiven 🙂

Fast forward 14 years later and Natalie has accepted our marriage moreso than any of Lee’s 3 children.  She is quite excited for it and her dad’s renewed life.  Most of all she is happy her little brother has his dad in his life.  It has taken me by surprise that the one child I was not close to in her younger years is the one I am now developing a closer relationship with in our later years.  The funny part is that it was with one single Facebook post that everything changed.  But what am I saying?  It is because of Facebook Lee and I are back together.  🙂

Natalie posted about her allergy issues a couple weeks ago and some essential oils she found to help Parker, her 7 month old and Chase, her husband.  I asked a simple question and next thing I knew I had 12 essentials sent to my front door.  it was a fabulous deal.  I have never been one for the “natural” way of life.  Any convenience I use it.  Any doctor med prescribed I take it.  So me on essential oils I’m sure is a hoot for some of my friends.  However, I will try anything once.  So, I took a risk and am loving the results not just the physical changes in our health but the emotional connections with my stepd-daughter.

Today, I talk to Natalie at least once a day, where before I spoke to her once a month.  We are growing closer over time and so her relationship with not just me but her father will be strengthened.  My allergies are in good condition with reduced allergy issues.  I have more energy than ever before in my life and Lee’s health issues are subsiding as well.  Eczema being his worst issue.  When I signed up for  Young Living, I thought I was just getting a product.  However, God had another plan.  He knew this was what we needed to bring our families closer.

Yesterday I made some creams to help my skincare, sleep deprivation and pain issues for Lee.  I’m sure you’ve seen them on pinterest.  If not, here is a link to my Pinterest board (click here)  with recipes.

To get started I ordered my starter kit here.  In it I received the following for just $150

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$300 retail value for $150

But for a limited time I also received an additional oil for FREE-lemongrass!  So all in all I ended up with 12 oils.  Little did I know the value of this until I put lemongrass on my thyroid and on day 2 had a ton of energy.  Then I found some cream recipes on pinterest and gave them a try.  AWESOME results.  I also feverishly cleaned our bathroom and kitchen with Thieves and Lemon oils.  Love the clean smell and the phenominal job these two oils can do for cleaning.  I also drink 5 drops of citrus fresh and peppermint oil in my water every morning.  Frankincense is great to inhale just before devotional time.  Finally, I diffuse the allergy trio below nightly and our allergies issues are subiding in our home.

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I am feeling fabulous!  But I  think the best part of this whole deal is getting closer to my step daughter and her family now.  Seeing our relationship blossom has been my favorite part of this whole experience.  I am reminded of what Titus says in Chapter 2

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.  

~Titus 2:3-5

I hope I can teach all our girls these things as they watch Lee and I over the next 50 years.  It has been a blessing to teach Natalie what I know about marketing and giving her ideas to help her grow her business so she can be at home with our beautiful granddaughter, Parker.  I don’t know what the future will bring but I do know Natalie and all our children are a huge  part of it.    I can’t imagine my life without our 6 children, 8 beautiful grand-babies, and most of all life without Lee.  Without him life would definitely be lonely and different.  For it is with him I find happiness, joy and the meaning of true love.

I am blessed!

Have a blessed night!

Myra

A Blessed Woman in TX

Christian Living · Christian Wife · crafting · decorating · prayer · Proverbs 31

Life Changes-Wedding Update and other stuff

Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!” Luke 1:45

Wedding update:

We are down to the last 48 days.  WHEW!  The big stuff is complete, now it is just the little stuff.   And there is a lot of little stuff!!! Decorations, seating charts-if any, rsvp management, follow up with caterers, photographers, honeymoon planning, ceremony planning.  I should be stressed but I’m not!  I find great peace in crafting and creating.  This is my favorite part of it all.  Planning this wedding has been one of my greatest joys.  We have been together before however this time is different.  This time I have the husband God intended for me.

Now that I have Lee here with us 24/7 life is so much easier.  I can get things done quickly and easily with his help.  We make a great team.  As he gets his private counseling practice up and going, I can work and not worry about the home and kids.  He is having to be Mr. Mom as I do my job until 8 or 9 pm 2-3 days per week or travel at the last minute anywhere between Austin and DFW.  And he is very supportive in doing so.   He makes sure my car has gas, the tires are good, and the oil level is what is supposed to be.  This is why I love this man.  This is why I’m ready to marry him and be his wife.

Together we will build a ministry that God has intended us to lead.  Lee has some great fellowship meetings this week here in Temple and I have been invited to an exclusive Women’s Ministry group with a group of about 8 women from DFW to Austin.  This can only help us grow even more rapidly!

I think we have found our church home at Vista Community Church.  They have embraced Lee’s counseling services and willing to work with him on growing this ministry. God’s favor is with us as we search for a house, grow Lee’s ministry/counseling practice and get Marissa transitioned to adulthood.

As always, life has been a blessing here in the Medina-Hutcheson household.  It’s crazy busy as we clean up for our wedding but it’s a good busy and not a stress filled mess 🙂

God is good all the time; all the time God is good!

Have a blessed night!

Myra 🙂

AKA a very blessed woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife · prayer · Proverbs 31

The Blessings of Rain

For the last few weeks, our time has been limited.  From October to April Lee was here with us every other weekend come you know what and high water!  From April to now, we have had one weekend together and a few days in between where we could see eachother for a quick lunch or quick dinner before one of us was heading back to our respective towns.

Lee has been preparing for his graduation from his LCDC program to become a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor Intern.  I have been dealing with my career which is in full swing, managing my son’s baseball schedule, and trying to spend as much time as possible with my Senior girl as she prepares for adulthood.  Oh and to top it off, I’ve been preparing for our wedding.

To say the least, life has been overwhelming for both of us!!!!

Lee and I started to get snippy, quippy and cranky with each other.  The stress got the best of all of us-me, Lee, and the kids.  So, I did this weird thing–I told Lee how I felt.  What?  Communication?  Yes, we should all try it!!!!  I won’t go into the details of our conversations but we both said hurtful things over the past few weeks and we were both about to explode.  SO, I had a conversation with God one day and this is what he told me :

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9

Okay, God I hear you!  We needed to come together as one again and face life together.  WOW!  What an awakening that was for me.  I realized my next conversation needed to be with Lee.  I mean really, my dog was coming between us?  Um, no that was not going to happen!  So, I took this big leap of faith and discussed nicely how I was feeling with Lee.  Something amazing happened.  He felt the same way and it had nothing to do with the dog!!!!   We found resolution to our problem before it became a big problem.

I was forced to look at myself in all this as well.  It is so easy to blame others.  It is so easy to say HE DID IT ALL WRONG.  This is something our society does well.  However, I know I am as much to blame as he was for all the things we both were feeling.  I owned it and fixed it; so did Lee.

I felt neglected because he was constantly serving the Ministry he serves and finishing his school work.  He felt neglected because I was constantly busy with work and kids.  Sound familiar?

He came to town last week and God gave us this blessing in our life-RAIN!  Baseball game cancelled.  Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing I love more than watching our son play baseball.  He is my favorite player.  However, lately it has been baseball 24/7.  Between Mac’s games and the TX Rangers constantly on my TV at home, I have to admit I was a little baseballed out.  The rain was just the break we needed.

That next day we spent the day together.  I worked from home and he did too.  We had lunch together, later ran errands together, and ended our night at my office helping one of my agents move some furniture into our office.  As simple as all that sounds, it was one of the best days we have had in a while.  We didn’t do anything “special” but my time with him was special because it was something we haven’t had in a while-togetherness.  Lee made me and our family the priority and so did I.  We discussed his business plans and I updated him on my office projects.  We discussed us, the wedding, the kids and just got back to the basics of all things Lee and Myra.

We are back on track.

Lee is my best friend and the first to know anything I know.  He treats me like a princess.  To the point where he spoon feeds me ice cream; it’s kinda the only way I will eat now when we are at home LOL The kids say we are disgusting because he takes very good care of me and my needs.  However, we both let the stress get to us and let it affect our relationship. We let it get bad.  Going forward we will do the following:

  • Put God first and foremost in our relationship
  • Pray; pray for ourselves, pray for each other, pray alone, pray together; pray for our goals as individuals, as a family and as business partners in ministry.
  • Communicate:  We have never been that couple that runs out of things to say. We just haven’t made time to really talk.  I call it “getting naked” because you have to go deep and not stay just on the surface. We talk about his plans, my plans and how they can unite.   We’ve always been that way.
  • Make Time:  We had become that couple who were two ships passing in the night; NEVER AGAIN! We will make time daily to talk and weekly to get away from everything.  And for Memorial Day Weekend we will be detached-no cell phones or laptops (this will however be a challenge for me so please pray).  We are taking a family vacation to San Antonio, however it is still time together as the kids drive with headphones in their ears we will talk for the 2 hour commute.

Although I am now tired of the rain we have seen here in Texas, I thank God for it.  Who knows where we would be if it hadn’t happened.  Once again, God blessed me and us with what we needed.

So tonight I leave with this verse I pray over Lee everyday.  I hope it resonates with you and your significant other/husband/wife

But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Ruth 1:16

Goodnight and God Bless,

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife · crafting · decorating · prayer

God’s Timing~He knows what you need and when you need it!

But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. ~John 14:26

Yesterday, I had a client walk into my office and what started as a regular insurance sales pitchy meeting ended this 70 year old woman sharing her faith, her church and her prayers with me.  It turned my day around quick!  She prayed the verse listed above over me and my family.  I will never forget her, this verse or that day.  We will be visiting her church soon!  But with all we have going on right now she just reminded me that all we have, all we are going through, and all we are promised is because of God’s will.  His will be done!

Lee graduates in 11 days and Marissa graduates in another Month.  We get married in 88 days.  WOW!  In a short time frame, I will be the mom of two adult young women, a highschool young man and a pastor’s wife.  Life has come full circle for all of us and God’s promises and timing are becoming abundantly clear to me.

In the past month, Marissa received the bad news that she did not get into her #1 program.  But she has taken it like a champ.  She has realized where she needs to strengthen herself and she is working on it daily.  We realize this was not where God intended her to be for now.  She can reapply for the program in October.  And today it hits me that if she gets into this program next year, she will be the first student in a wheel chair to successfully get into this program.  So for now, we are working on independence and strengthening her weaknesses.

We have begun our search for a new home.  UGH!  That’s all I can say.  Just UGH!  I spent all day Saturday looking at house after house and you would think it was me who was picky but it’s not–Lee is the picky one.  We want our son in a specific school district and that is limiting our search.  I know once we find the right home that God wants us to have it will be okay but for now the search is on!!!

Our wedding is coming together beautifully.  We are peeking into the $3K realm but haven’t quite crossed over yet.  For now, we have $175 on invites that would have cost me $500.  I have 2 cakes for $350 and everywhere else was looking at $1500+.  I also found an awesome photographer that will provide 2 photographers for $500 for about 4-5 hours of coverage.  The starting prices in my area are $900 and up for 1 photographer and I have 2!!!  And I’m still under $500 on my decorations.  All of this tells me God has his hand on our marriage.  Praise, God!  Praise, God!  Praise, God!

I am now working on the decorations and have some fabulous ideas that haven’t come together yet.  For now, here is where I’m at with decorations.

wpid-20150426_125501.jpgI found 6 of these candelabras on Craigslist for under $100.  My theme originally started as Country Chic but it is quickly turning into Vintage Country Chic-that is more me anyway 🙂  This probably isn’t the direction I will go with these.  I found some teacups and flowers I think I will use in conjunction with these.  They come apart and I can use two to hang from our trees in the backyard and the bases as pillars for table decorations.  I see it in my head but I’ll post pics when these things come together 🙂

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I of course have spray painted mason jars but I have also learned to use twine on my old wine bottles.  (No I’m not an alcoholic I drank these wines on special occasions with some of my favorite people over the last 6 years).  I am proud to say I only have 8 bottles.  I’m having to reach out to people to find empty wine bottles, if you know me and you can give to the cause, please call me!

wpid-20150426_141114.jpg  And I also have some old syrup bottles and other bottles I liked over the years I am using.  The great thing about these is the cost.  $2 for the jute twine (covers 3-4 bottles), $3 for the lace (used on all the bottles), $.92 cents for each brooch, and around $2 for the flowers that will fill them.

I’m having a craft party this Saturday at my house with two of my favorite people in the whole wide world.  Lee is stuck in Dallas with some graduation things to tie up and it’s just me and the kids this weekend.  So it’s a girl’s weekend for me!

God has blessed me with a lot this year.  I have a man that spoils me with love, affection and some material things I want but mostly his love for me and our children amazes me everyday.  I never have to worrry about cooking, cleaning or laundry.  He’s the man!!!  I also have a fabulous job that allows me time at home now.  I missed one baseball game this year and it is the first one in 13 years.  I believe I’m doing great! And finally my biggest accomplishment is being able to lead 5 female insurance agents and teach them Christian leadership skills.  Whoot! Whoot!  wpid-20150424_205709.jpeg

Now I have to really brag on my man for a minute.  For  a man who has no job, he sure does spoil me.  For my birthday, I got Neiman’s.  For Christmas my engagement ring.  For Valentine’s Day my favoritest cheesecake ever and now for Mother’s Day a beautiful sapphire bracelet to match my sapphire engagement ring.  It’s a big deal to me because this is the focal point of our wedding….hence the sapphire and coral colors!!!

As always, I am a very blessed woman and God bless that sweet, sweet lady who stopped by for a visit yesterday.

Have a blessed day!

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife

Wedding Update: Making it About us and not them

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord ~ Proverbs 18:22 NKJV

If you have ever planned a wedding, then you know it can test the strongest of relationships.  I have to give Lee some props for being extremely understanding and patient the past few weeks.  After a long conversation, we have decided to move our venue from DFW to our backyard and this will save us thousands!  In doing so, it has relieved all my stress and made my wedding fun again!

Driving back and forth to DFW, spending many weekends with my parents, and spending thousands per vendor versus hundreds. I was turning into Bridezilla, momzilla and just an all around zilla in every aspect of my life.

Then one morning during quiet time I asked God to give me guidance.  I asked him to take away all my worries and stress.  That afternoon He put it on my heart to talk to Lee about the wedding venue.  We figured out we were making this what our family wanted and needed and not what we needed.  And here we are in my backyard!  It was the easiest decision for us both…….

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9

Since that decision has been made, things have fallen into place:

I found a cheap rental facility $800 out the door for everything we need to accommodate 100 people

One of the men Lee works with in his ministry is doing the catering for a very reasonable rate (not yet determined)

My cake is $425 for a three tier and groom cake

My photographer is only $500 when the normal package runs $900 in my area

My bouquet has only cost me about $125 vs. $500

My flower girls are looking at $50 total for both girls

The decorations are costing about $5 per table

The outdoor signs and decor is budgeted at $300; craigslist is a Godsend………

And most of all, I have a peace of mind. But the biggest realization is seeing that when I followed what God had intended life got easier.  Our wedding has been stagnant and not progressing and now we have so much done!

God is good!

small bouquet

This is what my flower girls will carry and be able to keep as a keepsake; I hope to see them used in their weddings some day……..

5 inch bouquet

this is my bouquet; it is not 100% completed but maybe at 95% now

Today, we are spray painting and starting on table decorations.  I am becoming a pro at burlap, muslin and lace flowers.

Pics will follow on my next update.  For now, I’m off to clean, create and plan for the week.

Thanks for hanging in there during my lack of writings ……..more time will be available soon!

I am blessed to have you as a follower, my family and friends.

God is good!

Thanks!

A Blessed Woman 🙂