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How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 2

1 Corinthians 10.31

In the blog, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl I discussed 10 steps to gaining confidence.  I also folowed up with Step 1 in the blog How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 1.  In this blog I explain the most important step of picking up your crown and owning it- coming to know God through a personal relationship with our LORD and Savior, Jesus Christ.  Another very important step in being able to pick up your crown is to Give the Glory to God ALWAYS and to honor Him ALWAYS!

Let’s face it it’s easy to love God and praise Him when things are going right but when things are falling apart it’s hard to say “thank you, LORD”.  I know, I’ve been there and done that.  I tithed when things were great and didn’t when they were bad.  I prayed when things were good and didn’t when they were bad.  When everything in my life fell apart, I blamed Him instead of praising him through the storm.

giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, ~Ephesians 5:20

The Bible does NOT say give thanks to God when things are good.  It says FOR EVERYTHING (good or bad).  This is very hard to do.  When I was learning this lesson I was living in a hotel because I had lost my job, got evicted from my home, and I had 3 children to raise and feed.  ALL BY MYSELF!   This was during a period in time when finding a job was next to impossible.  The economy had taken a downward spiral and jobs were scarce.

So that weekly hotel you pass on the highway and think who stays there weekly?  Well, me and my children did.  The PTA mom, the soccer mom, the baseball mom, the Jr. Leaguer with her hair done just right and dressed just like you -she stayed there. This is why I never judge a book by its cover-I’ve been that book misjudged many times.  I know what is happening on the outside is not a true representation of what is happening on the inside.

I look back on what seemed to be a very dark moment in my life and I am reminded of how great God really is because as I look back on that moment I am reminded of a  what was born from me being there in that moment of time.  A sweet friend of mine came to visit me at my worst at that hotel and as I was crying about my circumstance and complaining about my life, she saw a need I could not see.  All I saw around me was MY situation.

Out of my darkest moment a very good ministry was founded for the children who lived there.  Kids playing soccer next to a highway.  Kids running around without solid parental guidance.  Teens having sex in the hallways and rooms of a hotel because of the lifestyle they were raised in. They finally had a voice through my sweet friend and her Life Group from church.

Funds were raised and kids who didn’t know what a Christmas tree was like or the joy of decorating for Christmas suddenly found that joy. Children and parents were mentored on a life with Jesus and still are because I weathered a storm.  Because although I reached my lowest moment in my life; there were families reaching one of the highest moments in their lives-coming to know the LORD.  Only God could make that happen.  But if I had not lived in that place for that season of my life, it never would have happened.  My life made that happen.  That, my friends, is very empowering to know my life impacted others in that way.

I could tell you countless stories of weathering the storm, we all have them.  Some of us have more than others.  But the biggest lesson I learned through all my trials was that God DOES have a plan for me.  He does have a hope and a future for me.  I just have to listen to my Heavenly Father and see the beauty being created even when my life is a hot mess for that hot minute.  That, my sweet friends,  was so empowering to me.

My life is very blessed now but I have a past.  I had shame from bad relationships and poor choices in men.  I had guilt from bad choices that led to sexual promiscuity and poor financial management.   I had loneliness from low self esteem.  Sound familiar?  Good news is that it will get better.  You see one day I found out I have Jesus and my whole life changed. My Jesus is my friend and he held my hand when I thought no one else in the world was there.He led me to Central Texas.  He brought me to my beautiful life in my beautiful home with my amazing husband, my three beautiful children and friends who are now family.

It wasn’t easy and it has taken a lot of healing and a lot of forgiveness of others and myself.  It took me realizing that no matter  what God has a plan and no matter what He deserves the glory for all my hurts, all my pains, and all my success.  Without the trials and tribulations I would not be who I am today.  I would not know a life with God.  I would not be a mother who prays for her children not to know the experiences I endured in my life.  I would not be a wife who submits to her husband and prays for him daily.  I would be a lost soul walking on this earth filled with pain, filled with misery, and void of the love and laughter that my family and friends today bring me.

It’s not easy to always give the glory to God.  Sometimes we forget.  We are human, it happens.  But I have prayed for God to convict me when I fail to praise him even during the bad times and He does.

My challenge to you today is simple:  Find your hope and your future even when you are in the storm.  See the beauty in your hot mess moments.  We all have them.  Turn the negative into a positive.  Know that no matter where you are in life at this moment that God, and ONLY God brought you to where you are today. GIVE HIM THE GLORY FOR IT ALL!  But most importantly, know that even when we are a hot mess in those hot minute moments we still deserve to pick up our crowns and a know that even when we feel no one else is there our Heavenly Father is because we are the daughters of the King of Kings and LORD of Lords.

And that my sweet friends, makes all of us blessed women!

God Bless,

Myra

A Blessed Woman in TX

 

 

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Prayer-Keys to the Kingdom Part 1

I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” ~ Matthew 16:19

My husband has spent quite a few years studying for his M.Div and now his Doctorate.  He has had many assignments.  However, my favorite assignment he had to do was one called “Capture the Sermon“.  In this assignment, he had to listen to and rewrite the sermons in his words as he would teach the lesson.  From that assignment he wrote one called “Prayer-Keys to the Kingdom“.    This one is special because it was a sermon by our favorite Pastor, Steve Griffith out of Dallas, TX.  Steve was not only Lee’s mentor but also the Pastor who married us in July.  I also owe Steve a lot because it was him who gave me my husband back.  Without Steve, Lee would not be in my life or our son’s life.

This is a very timely find because of my new passion for my relationship with God and my desire to improve my prayer life.  Since watching the movie War Room, I have reignited my passion for the LORD and my prayer life.  Imagine my surprise when I was going through this file and found this beauty at the bottom of the stack.  God’s perfect timing once again!

Here it is:

wp-1453485935397.pngPrayer, there is nothing simpler or more powerful.  In 1 Timothy 2:1, we see the first instruction Paul gave the church was to pray.  Prayer is a constant challenge for most Christians- finding time, following up, knowing what to pray for.  And here lies the problem-making it an activity on the to-do list instead of a lifestyle that leads to victory.

Ephesians 6:18 tells us to “Pray always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to the this end with perseverance and all suppliaction for all Saints” This means:

  • Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit
  • Don’t stop praying
  • Call on all believers to help you pray
  • Pray for one another

We are in a constant attitude of prayer; a constant state of communicating with the LORD; a continual dependence on Him, moment by moment in life.  1 Thessalonians 5:17 says “Pray without ceasing.” We should pray about everything and on all occasions.  Anytime, Anyplace. Whether we are in prayer circles, meetings, our closet, family table, bible classes, devotionals, intercessions we should be walking and talking with God.

Prayer is our spiritual fuel.  We are human but now we have a spiritual engine.  That engine needs not human fuel or fuel of the world but prayer, which supplies our spiritual needs.  Prayer provides the energy needed to wear our spiritual armor (aka The Armor of God).  We cannot fight spiritual battles in our own strength-running on human effort.  We MUST rely on PRAYER.  It is the key to wearing God’s Armor into Victory!

Satan will use every device to keep us from praying. He will cause physical fatigue and zap our energy.  He will make us mentally unfit for prayer through the cares and burdens of the home and business.  He will destroy our power and prayer life through doubt, discouragement and depression.  So, when we feel least like praying, this is the time we need most to pray, for Satan has already gained a foothold in us.  The enemy knows when we haven’t prayed and moves into attack.  Prayer CANNOT be a matter of emotion.  It must be a CHOICE OF WILL.  A constant act of devotion and communication with God.

We must pray in prosperity and adversity; sickness and in health.  When we pray, pray prayers of praise and thanksgiving.  Then pray for what we will, desire and need.  James 4:2 says “we do not have because we do not ask…”  Often we strive after something without even praying about it and asking God for it.  Asking is the rule of the kingdom. If Jesus had to ask, you and I cannot expect to be exempted from it.  God knows what we need but HE wants us to ask Him as a sign of faith and dependence on Him.

The Holy Spirit provides us with power.  “Praying in Spirit” is all about God’s will.  We learn to pray the will of and according to the Word of God by yielding to the power of the Spirit who lives in us.  The Spirit directs us to pray in alignment with God’s plan and purposes, so God is able to answer.  If we pray on our own strength and wisdom, we will not find agreement with God.  We must have the mind of God which the Spirit provides as we pray.

Praying needs to become natural to you!  We must have perseverance in prayer, not giving up.  Prayer should also be done out of spiritual willingness and should not be forced.

The enemy has many ways he will try to discourage you from praying.  Let’s say you have two good days of praying in a row.  Satan will try to convince you it will be like that the rest of your life.  Listen closely, it won’t!  The third day when your prayer life is fruitless, the enemy will try to convince you that you’ve blown it and there is no use trying anymore.  THIS IS A LIE!!!  Do not listen!

If you have a couple of good days of prayer, then thank God for them and try for a third.  If the third day is a failure, just pray again on the fourth day.  Forget what is past and start anew each day.  Persevere in prayer.  That is the only way to get it done.

An old saying about the devil and prayer is that “The one concern of the devil is to keep Christians from praying.  He fears nothing from prayer-less studies, prayer-less works or prayer-less religion.  He laughs at our toil, mocks at our wisdom but trembles when we pray.”

And that is the first half of his sermon that was completed on September 6, 2010. Tomorrow I will share keys to prayer effectiveness and some guidance on prayer from Paul.  This is my favorite part of this sermon.  However, if you are like me, and not holding a M.Div. as my husband does then you have quite a bit to ponder for now.  I have to read and reread to fully grasp his words and the content.  I encourage you to do the same.

I am blessed with such a God-fearing man full of wisdom on the subject of our walk with the LORD.  Sometimes I get overwhelmed to make sure I’m living up to the standards Lee has but what I, what we both have realized is each of us has our own walk with the LORD.  Lee’s calling is his own and my calling is my own.  Our expectations for our walks are tailored to each of us but there are certain expectations we share.  This is a lesson we both had to learn the hard way.  It took us both humbling ourselves and almost losing one another to learn it.  Place your spouse/significant other in God’s hands and He will give you what you need.  Together, as one, we now encourage and support one another in our walks through the powerful gift of PRAYER.

God Bless,

Myra

A Very Blessed Woman in TX

 

 

 

 

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How to Pick Up Your Crown Step 1

Revelation 3.20

In the blog, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl I discussed 10 steps to gaining confidence.  So step 1 to pick up your crown and owning it, is to come to know the Lord through a personal relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  I know that at this point you are probably thinking oh great another preaching on getting closer to God and I will tell you, YES!  You are probably also thinking, I’m a bad person.  God doesn’t want people like me.  God only wants “good” people.  Wrong!  I tell everyone, especially my kids, there was only ONE perfect person on this earth and his name is Jesus Christ born of the Virgin Mary.  Who is your mother and What is your name?

My mother is Benita Medina and I am Myra Medina. I am not perfect!   When I first came to know God I was in this position:  Single mom, 3 kids, 3 different dads, raised Catholic praying to Saints and Mary, obviously with 3 children I had fallen from grace many times and had just an all around unhappiness.  I had just left the one man in this life who I thought loved me more than anything and he did except for two things-alcohol and drugs.  I had transitioned from our beautiful home with cars lining the driveway for every occasion to no car, no job, living with my parents and no way of taking of myself.  I had a man who paid the bills, took care of the cars and yard and all I had to do was go workout, clean the house and cook dinner on occasion.  I could not tell you anything about our home and its expenses except that we lived on Oak Tree Lane in Midlothian, TX and it was clean.     So, at that time I came to know Jesus all I could think was “Why me, Lord?”

Soon tragedy struck my middle child, Marissa, and I found the Lord through a stranger at the hospital.  Life did not instantly turn to sunshine and roses but it did get easier day by day.  I had grown up a very spoiled child.  I then found a man who played into that and gave me everything I wanted needed and desired.  I rarely from the time I was a baby to the time I was about 30 heard the word “no” from anyone.  I stuck my nose up in the air to people and situations.  Between my parents and Lee I had everything I ever wanted and so did my children.  But that night in the hospital my whole life changed.  Over time I came to know this man named Jesus.  For many years to follow He was my one true love.  He was a father to my children.  He was my everything I had been searching for.  And He told me No many, many times.  We fought about that on several occasions but i quickly found that unanswered prayers are still answered prayers

To get to this relationship with the Lord has taken many years, a lot of faith and a path down a road-The Roman’s Road.  I have heard salvation preached many different ways.  But when I heard from a very dear friend of mine about the Roman’s Road I thought he was crazy.  But he wanted me to better understand what I was committing to in my new relationship with the Lord.  It is the best explanation I have heard.

” For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of the Lord”  Romans 3:23 NKJV;

No matter if you are what you think to be a good person or what some think of as a bad person God sees that ALL have sinned.  Not some but ALL have sinned.  He also tells us that ALL fall short of God’s glory as well.  Think about that.  ALL fall short!  Whether you are a sexual predator or “good” person doing works God tells us that we ALL fall short.

As it is written “there is none righteous, no, not one; Romans 3:10 NKJV

Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned.  Romans 5:12

What are God’s laws?  What does the Bible tell us and where do we begin to learn the basic principles of living.  Simple:  The 10 commandments.  Have you lied?  Have you disrespected your parents?  Did you play keeping up with the Jones’ because you coveted your neighbors goods?  You have broken God’s law and God tells us in James 2:10 For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all.

Step 1:  Admit you are a sinner

For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our LORD.  Romans 6:23

Sin leads to death.  There is also something known as a spiritual death.  It occurs when we continuously sin.  It alienates us from God and it can last for eternity.  There is a place called Hell for those who die this kind of death..  But when we come to know Jesus our sins die and God gives us the gift of Grace.  Grace is the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.

Step 2: Understand that our sins deserve the death penalty

Step 3:  Ask God to forgive you of your sins and save you

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.  Romans 5:8

God tells us in John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus died on the cross for us and our sins. He paid the final price for our sins with the understanding we believe in Him and what He does for us. The wages of sin have been paid! 

Step 4:  Believe in Him and accepts his gift of life; Give your life to God!

 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:9-10

So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. Romans 10:17

Step 5:  If you feel God knocking on your heart, open it for Him.  Ask Him to come into your heart and save you!

Ask God to come into your heart and make you new.  God tells us in revelations all we have to do is ask for He says “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me. Revelation 3:20 

So, if you feel called, ask!  Even if you have been saved and feel the need to rededicate your life-ask!  The only guaranteed no from God is the unasked question!  I have rededicated my life recently because I have not always been on a straight path with Jesus.  But I am now!  And this time, it’s a lifetime commitment.  That’s the blessing of my relationship with the LORD.  He is always there for me-unconditionally whenever I am ready to receive Him.  No matter how bad I messed up or how far I have strayed, just as a mother loves her child, God loves us.

Step 6:  The final step is to pray!  Pray a prayer of salvation that includes all the steps above.  Invite Jesus into your heart and see how your life changes day by day.

As I have said, life will not be sunshine and roses immediately.  But over time, you will learn as you dig deeper in God’s word that You, my dear sister in Christ, deserve God’s grace and favor.  You are precious in His sight. No matter where you are right now you can dust yourself off and have a conversation with the LORD and be saved!

You are a child of the most high God.  He is the King of kings and LORD of lords.  So, Pick Up Your Crown, Girl!  Then get connected in a church community, bible study,  online bible study, and whatever you need to keep you grounded in the faith of Jesus Christ who saves you!

Send us a prayer request and let us know you have accepted God as your Lord and savior.  If you have questions, ask!  I am here to help and bless those with the knowledge I’ve received and help spread the joy of the LORD!  I will pray for you and answer any questions you might have.  If you give us your address, we might just send something special in the mail for you.

I am blessed to have shared this word with you today!

God bless and goodnight!

Myra

A Blessed Woman in Texas

Christian Living · Christian Wife · prayer · Proverbs 31

The Blessings of Rain

For the last few weeks, our time has been limited.  From October to April Lee was here with us every other weekend come you know what and high water!  From April to now, we have had one weekend together and a few days in between where we could see eachother for a quick lunch or quick dinner before one of us was heading back to our respective towns.

Lee has been preparing for his graduation from his LCDC program to become a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor Intern.  I have been dealing with my career which is in full swing, managing my son’s baseball schedule, and trying to spend as much time as possible with my Senior girl as she prepares for adulthood.  Oh and to top it off, I’ve been preparing for our wedding.

To say the least, life has been overwhelming for both of us!!!!

Lee and I started to get snippy, quippy and cranky with each other.  The stress got the best of all of us-me, Lee, and the kids.  So, I did this weird thing–I told Lee how I felt.  What?  Communication?  Yes, we should all try it!!!!  I won’t go into the details of our conversations but we both said hurtful things over the past few weeks and we were both about to explode.  SO, I had a conversation with God one day and this is what he told me :

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9

Okay, God I hear you!  We needed to come together as one again and face life together.  WOW!  What an awakening that was for me.  I realized my next conversation needed to be with Lee.  I mean really, my dog was coming between us?  Um, no that was not going to happen!  So, I took this big leap of faith and discussed nicely how I was feeling with Lee.  Something amazing happened.  He felt the same way and it had nothing to do with the dog!!!!   We found resolution to our problem before it became a big problem.

I was forced to look at myself in all this as well.  It is so easy to blame others.  It is so easy to say HE DID IT ALL WRONG.  This is something our society does well.  However, I know I am as much to blame as he was for all the things we both were feeling.  I owned it and fixed it; so did Lee.

I felt neglected because he was constantly serving the Ministry he serves and finishing his school work.  He felt neglected because I was constantly busy with work and kids.  Sound familiar?

He came to town last week and God gave us this blessing in our life-RAIN!  Baseball game cancelled.  Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing I love more than watching our son play baseball.  He is my favorite player.  However, lately it has been baseball 24/7.  Between Mac’s games and the TX Rangers constantly on my TV at home, I have to admit I was a little baseballed out.  The rain was just the break we needed.

That next day we spent the day together.  I worked from home and he did too.  We had lunch together, later ran errands together, and ended our night at my office helping one of my agents move some furniture into our office.  As simple as all that sounds, it was one of the best days we have had in a while.  We didn’t do anything “special” but my time with him was special because it was something we haven’t had in a while-togetherness.  Lee made me and our family the priority and so did I.  We discussed his business plans and I updated him on my office projects.  We discussed us, the wedding, the kids and just got back to the basics of all things Lee and Myra.

We are back on track.

Lee is my best friend and the first to know anything I know.  He treats me like a princess.  To the point where he spoon feeds me ice cream; it’s kinda the only way I will eat now when we are at home LOL The kids say we are disgusting because he takes very good care of me and my needs.  However, we both let the stress get to us and let it affect our relationship. We let it get bad.  Going forward we will do the following:

  • Put God first and foremost in our relationship
  • Pray; pray for ourselves, pray for each other, pray alone, pray together; pray for our goals as individuals, as a family and as business partners in ministry.
  • Communicate:  We have never been that couple that runs out of things to say. We just haven’t made time to really talk.  I call it “getting naked” because you have to go deep and not stay just on the surface. We talk about his plans, my plans and how they can unite.   We’ve always been that way.
  • Make Time:  We had become that couple who were two ships passing in the night; NEVER AGAIN! We will make time daily to talk and weekly to get away from everything.  And for Memorial Day Weekend we will be detached-no cell phones or laptops (this will however be a challenge for me so please pray).  We are taking a family vacation to San Antonio, however it is still time together as the kids drive with headphones in their ears we will talk for the 2 hour commute.

Although I am now tired of the rain we have seen here in Texas, I thank God for it.  Who knows where we would be if it hadn’t happened.  Once again, God blessed me and us with what we needed.

So tonight I leave with this verse I pray over Lee everyday.  I hope it resonates with you and your significant other/husband/wife

But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Ruth 1:16

Goodnight and God Bless,

A Blessed Woman

Christian Living · Christian Wife · Uncategorized

Acceptance, Obedience, Self Control and Sin

You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master. Genesis 4:7

You will be accepted if you do what is right
God gave us the ultimate statement of acceptance. He WILL accept us as long as
we are living the right life. Therefore, if we are created in God’s image (Genesis 1:27), we as parents need to set these same expectations of acceptance for our children. Today’s society tells us to back off our children and “let them express themselves” However, I feel we need more discipline, rules and guidelines like we once had. For me, this reaffirms my discipline with my children at home and the high expectations I place upon them.  What greater gift can we give our children than the gift of God’s acceptance?  Now that is the “in” crowd I want to be a part of…….

But if you do refuse to do what is right, then watch out!
God gives us warning of what is to come if we disobey. He gives us rules and holds us to high expectations for us as His children. We must do the same for our children. We cannot have rules without consequences.  We must share these consequences with everyone in our lives not just our children.

Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you.
God tells us that sin can control our lives if we allow it. We must cast Satan out of our lives continually. We need to stay away from sin or it will take over our lives. Every day there is spiritual warfare. I face it daily myself. Therefore, I must put on my armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) and be prepared to battle. To do this I must pray, live in the Word, and live the Word.

Armor of God

But you must subdue it and be its mater
4. God gave us self-control to subdue sin. He gives us the will to be the masters of our own sin. If we are living in the Word, we can control ourselves better. I know my prayer sometimes is very simple “God, remove the negative influences and strongholds from my life”. It’s amazing what happens when I pray that prayer. Sometimes it removes people from my life and sometimes I lose things. Either way, God is always with me no matter what I lose.

Tonight’s memory verses:

16 Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness? 17 But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, 18 and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness. ~Romans 6:16-18

Good night and God Bless!

A Blessed Woman