It is in watching my children grow together that I am reminded of this verse and it’s meaning. Having a special needs sibling can be tiring and exhausting but it is also what brings you to a relationship with Christ like no other. My youngest and oldest struggle with this everyday as they watch their sister struggle from Spina Bifida and all the other minor diagnosis’ she received.
Just when I think I need to get on my knees because of animosity amongst them, I turn around and can capture moments like the one in the image of my son pushing his big sister in difficult terrain for a wheelchair. It is then I am reminded that I have done my job as a mom. They do love her and care for her just as I do as her mom.
God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them. ~ Hebrews 6:10
They are siblings and they will fight. But being the sibling to a special needs sister is different and requires a lot of hard work and understanding. It can be exhausting coming second to her needs. You can grow resentment because you just don’t understand why mom has to keep spending time with her at doctor appointments and performing procedures that MUST be done for her health.
However, just when I think my children are falling apart I notice things. Things like hearing them reassure one another when one of them is down. Watching their faces brighten up when they spend sibling time together. There is no better sound than their laughter. It brings so much joy to my life and makes my heart full. But most of all I see them make sure their sister is included or find a way to include her. When she’s having a hard time, they lend her a hand.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. ~ Galatians 6:2
This is where I take my lesson. I need to do that more as a wife, as a friend, and as a mom. How many times do you get frustrated with your spouse? The friend who asks for advice but never takes it? The kids calling out “mom” for the 100th time in a day? I need to make sure I am including those who are often forgotten or different. When I am tired, exhausted and feel like someone should be able to do something for themselves, I need to reach out and help anyway.
I have to love people for who they are and meet them where they are. I am blessed beyond measure and just as God has loved me I must love ALL his people.
Children give you teachable moments too. This is one of mine.