I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
As I reflect on my week, I realize how much I have counseled women on confidence! This breaks my heart for a lot of reason but mostly because I know the feeling. I have been beaten down. I have been used and abused emotionally, sexually and physically. I have carried shame. I have carried guilt. But then God put all these amazing people around me to show me how fearfully and wonderfully made I truly am. True story, they are all church-going, actively involved Christians. Amazing people!
I could not have done life without them guiding me, leading by example. I have been shown that I can do life and overcome my past. But most important of all, I was shown that God, the most high Heavenly Father, loves me no matter what. When I was alone, He was with me. When I was a single mom, he was my co-parent. As I look back at that time when I was feeling unsure of myself, I realize how much even though I wasn’t being loyal to Him, He was carrying me and loyal to me.
which God will bring about in his own time–God, the blessed and only Ruler, the King of kings and Lord of lords,
1 Timothy 6:15
I wish someone had told me what I told the women I spoke to this week, including my daughters. I told them to “Pick up your crown, girl”! Every little girl, young lady, grown woman on this earth deserves to wear a crown. We are the princesses of the most High God. He is the King of kings and Lord of lords. He himself tells us in Psalm 139:14 that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Who else do we need to hear it from? God is about as high as you can go when it comes to the food chain! God asks you this question in Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. How are you going to answer Him?
I didn’t get over my confidence issues easily. It took some action steps. Here they are in written form ( I will expand on these in the days to come):
- Accepted God as my Lord and Savior
- Give God the Glory always for all the good stuff
- Keep honoring God and being faithful to Him during the hard times
- Find a good church based Bible study and join the women’s group
- Study the word at home
- Read your Bible
- Set time aside each and every day for God
- Pray, Pray, and Pray some more
- Find my worth
- Find my value
- Surround yourself with sisters in Christ who lift you up
- Find a mentor or two or three 🙂
The best resource I have read on this is Tracie Miles’ book “Your Life Still Counts“. Awesome read and worth the time to sift through the pages of it and the Bible. Tracie currently has a bible study (click here for more information) and the Facebook group is here. If you can’t afford the book, you can message them privately, they have resources to send you one. All excuses removed!
I close by saying this: Pick up your crown, Girl. You are a valuable resource to those around you. You are a beautiful child, young lady, and/or grown woman who is fearfully and wonderfully made. If noone else tells you this, I just did. I don’t know you but I do know you are a child of God and God does not make mistakes!!!
A Blessed Woman