For the last few weeks, our time has been limited. From October to April Lee was here with us every other weekend come you know what and high water! From April to now, we have had one weekend together and a few days in between where we could see eachother for a quick lunch or quick dinner before one of us was heading back to our respective towns.
Lee has been preparing for his graduation from his LCDC program to become a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor Intern. I have been dealing with my career which is in full swing, managing my son’s baseball schedule, and trying to spend as much time as possible with my Senior girl as she prepares for adulthood. Oh and to top it off, I’ve been preparing for our wedding.
To say the least, life has been overwhelming for both of us!!!!
Lee and I started to get snippy, quippy and cranky with each other. The stress got the best of all of us-me, Lee, and the kids. So, I did this weird thing–I told Lee how I felt. What? Communication? Yes, we should all try it!!!! I won’t go into the details of our conversations but we both said hurtful things over the past few weeks and we were both about to explode. SO, I had a conversation with God one day and this is what he told me :
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9
Okay, God I hear you! We needed to come together as one again and face life together. WOW! What an awakening that was for me. I realized my next conversation needed to be with Lee. I mean really, my dog was coming between us? Um, no that was not going to happen! So, I took this big leap of faith and discussed nicely how I was feeling with Lee. Something amazing happened. He felt the same way and it had nothing to do with the dog!!!! We found resolution to our problem before it became a big problem.
I was forced to look at myself in all this as well. It is so easy to blame others. It is so easy to say HE DID IT ALL WRONG. This is something our society does well. However, I know I am as much to blame as he was for all the things we both were feeling. I owned it and fixed it; so did Lee.
I felt neglected because he was constantly serving the Ministry he serves and finishing his school work. He felt neglected because I was constantly busy with work and kids. Sound familiar?
He came to town last week and God gave us this blessing in our life-RAIN! Baseball game cancelled. Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing I love more than watching our son play baseball. He is my favorite player. However, lately it has been baseball 24/7. Between Mac’s games and the TX Rangers constantly on my TV at home, I have to admit I was a little baseballed out. The rain was just the break we needed.
That next day we spent the day together. I worked from home and he did too. We had lunch together, later ran errands together, and ended our night at my office helping one of my agents move some furniture into our office. As simple as all that sounds, it was one of the best days we have had in a while. We didn’t do anything “special” but my time with him was special because it was something we haven’t had in a while-togetherness. Lee made me and our family the priority and so did I. We discussed his business plans and I updated him on my office projects. We discussed us, the wedding, the kids and just got back to the basics of all things Lee and Myra.
We are back on track.
Lee is my best friend and the first to know anything I know. He treats me like a princess. To the point where he spoon feeds me ice cream; it’s kinda the only way I will eat now when we are at home LOL The kids say we are disgusting because he takes very good care of me and my needs. However, we both let the stress get to us and let it affect our relationship. We let it get bad. Going forward we will do the following:
- Put God first and foremost in our relationship
- Pray; pray for ourselves, pray for each other, pray alone, pray together; pray for our goals as individuals, as a family and as business partners in ministry.
- Communicate: We have never been that couple that runs out of things to say. We just haven’t made time to really talk. I call it “getting naked” because you have to go deep and not stay just on the surface. We talk about his plans, my plans and how they can unite. We’ve always been that way.
- Make Time: We had become that couple who were two ships passing in the night; NEVER AGAIN! We will make time daily to talk and weekly to get away from everything. And for Memorial Day Weekend we will be detached-no cell phones or laptops (this will however be a challenge for me so please pray). We are taking a family vacation to San Antonio, however it is still time together as the kids drive with headphones in their ears we will talk for the 2 hour commute.
Although I am now tired of the rain we have seen here in Texas, I thank God for it. Who knows where we would be if it hadn’t happened. Once again, God blessed me and us with what we needed.
So tonight I leave with this verse I pray over Lee everyday. I hope it resonates with you and your significant other/husband/wife
But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Ruth 1:16
Goodnight and God Bless,
A Blessed Woman