21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs[a] and closed up the opening. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.
23 “At last!” the man exclaimed.
“This one is bone from my bone,
and flesh from my flesh!
She will be called ‘woman,’
because she was taken from ‘man.’”
Genesis 2:21-23 NLT
Today I started Reading Through the Word with Wendy Pope. In our daily readings we journal our take away, something old and something new. My something new that stood out to me today was reading Genesis 2:23 “At Last” the man exclaimed. This one sentence struck me. All the years I have read this book and Adam’s excitement to have a companion was overlooked. This tells me that God created man to rely on us as women. After all, he did take us from the man’s rib. (Genesis 2:21-23) We are an extenstion-bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh-of the man God has intended for us.
Men want us in their lives and live for us to be with them. God created them that way! However, God also created them to be the leader in the relationship. This is where we as a modern day woman struggle. Not unbelievable since we are now single mothers, business women, and live on our own. However, He gave man the power and control not us. He tells us this here in Genesis, he tells us this in Ephesians and it is a repeated theme in the Bible. The man is the spiritual head of the relationship. God wants us as women, even today, to submit to them and let them lead.
Easy task? Not really. When you are truly submissive you put someone else’s needs above yours. For us a mother, we are submissive to our children with no problem. But not our husbands or significant other. This is what causes so much strife in our lives. We as a modern day woman place our children and our careers above all else. But in doing so, we are living against God’s will. God tell us in Ephesians 5;22-23 we must submit to our husbands. He does not say your children, your job, your friends. He says, YOUR HUSBAND!!!
As I look back on my own relationships I know submission was a problem for me for a long time. It was the downfall of every relationship I had before Lee came into my life. I would not give up that control. I would not give up putting my children, family and friends first. Why would I?
At the time, I was not aware that God created one man for me. I was not aware that God not only created this man but he made him have a burning desire for me! Think about that ladies–God created this man who will say “AT LAST!” just for you. WOW! How good does that make you feel? I see some mustard seeds being replanted in a lot of lives right now.
Now as I look back on my past relationships I know that was not what God had intended for me. I know because the men I was with I was not equally yoked with much less did we live with God at the center of our lives. Instead I lived for the “next big thing” that came along. Never feeling that WOW that God had waiting for me. I did not feel it because that was not the man God intended for me and I forced something against God’s will it did not work.
These verses in 2:21-23 for me shows me that God creates one woman for one man and that man is waiting for us to find him. However we are always looking for the beautiful and overlook what God has given us. That man over there is more handsome, that man has more money, that one is better than this one. Because of those things we pursue what is bright and shiny instead of what God has intended for us. It’s our typical “the grass is greener” phenomenon we fall into repeatedly in today’s society. However, if we look at what God gives us and has placed in our path we see the true beauty of a relationship between a man and a woman as God intended.
Every morning I wake and say WOW! I have been given the gift of God’s love not only through my children but through a man who truly loves me and adores me as God loves his church. Yesterday when I picked up Lee this was our convo:
Me: How are you?
Lee: I am a blessed man honey
Lee: Yes, I am with you now!!!
As simple as that convo is, it means everything to me. I get convos and texts like this all day long every day. Lee constantly shows me that kind of love and I truly feel as though I am an extension of him. I feel him saying “AT LAST” every time he sees me. Never a doubt in my mind that I have made the right choice. However, had I made some judgements and not forgiven him for past mistakes life would be different. I would have looked for the next shiny thing to come along and I would be missing out on what is the most amazing person God put on this earth just for me.
This is why I am blessed.
Goodnight and God Bless!
A Blessed Woman